Hey,

I'm a new poster on this forum, but not new to the PUA scene. I first got involved about 2 years ago with David DeAngelo's material, then moved on to other material, including Gambler's book.

These all helped me enormously - I was always chronically shy, even during university, and it was only after graduating that I really pushed myself to get this area of my life sorted. I'm certainly no master, but I am definitely far more confident, fun and successful with women, and even around people in general. To say my life has been transformed is an understatement, and I am a much happier person for it.

Anyway, my dilemma. I have been in love with a friend from university for a few years now, and after umming and aaing over it so many times when around her, I have finally decided the next time I see her in person (end of May) I will make a move.

The problem is that, around her and her alone, I tend to revert a little back to my old shy self. Certainly not as bad as I used to be, but neither as confident as I am when in the company of other women. In my transformation over the last couple of years, I have used the knowledge from places like this forum to be fairly successful with women, but I think my feelings for this friend have always been in the back of my mind and held me back a little.

To illustrate how bad I was a few years back, I texted this friend one time after we had been out for a few drinks, basically along the lines of 'Hey, we should go for a meal sometime'. Needless to say, this AFC behaviour got me a 'That's sweet, but let's just be friends' response.

I guess why I am posting here is to get as much advice as I can on what to say and how to approach this specific type of situation, given that she is a good friend, and as such I think I may be in that dreaded 'friend' category. If she says no, I can handle it, and it will be a weight of my shoulders, and I can move on with my life.

You may be wondering why I think I might have a chance given the fact she knocked me back via my text message fiasco a few years ago? The answer is I feel so different as a person now that I lead my own life, and am unrecognisable from the hermit crab that I was back then. It's no wonder she wasn't attracted to me back then.

Anyway, enough rambling, all advice welcome please.

run the cube on her, then afterwards do the 5-lies test thing but if she fails, she has to give a little kiss, if she wins, you buy her whatever drink she wants. she's likely to agree to that after you've done the cube because it builds alot of comfort.

she will fail, you get a kiss, then say, "well i'll get you that drink anyway, just for playing, but not now coz i've gota go meet some mates"

pretty simple eh?

-teen