I had moderately bad one-itus with this girl that I am now over (I cannot believe how much it was affecting me, I was overanalyzing EVERYTHING) .

Anyways, we scheduled an outing for tonight. She messaged me about an hour before (she was in class so she couldnt call) telling me

"Im so sorry but I cant go out tonight, can we please reschedule for thursday?..I feel really bad"

I go

"Wow you lucked out, I have band practice on Mon, Wed and Friday"

"Well only if you make it up to me"

and she goes

"how about I buy you a drink".

I say

"Sure, I might be meeting up with some friends later that night so you can tag along"

"Well I have to go though"

End.

Input? I feel like this was possibly a genuine flake due to her setting up for later in the week and her apologetic tone. nevertheless, I still tried to act a little conditional and not too available.

i know what you mean my guy i hate flakeyness, and there are a few ways you can go about dealing with flakeyness. one is to punish her through ignoring her entirely, making her feel like you have better things to do and more important people to see. Whenever she texts or calls you, for a few times after the flake to hang out etc... your busy period. By girls flaking they are trying to make you jump through hoops to hang out with them. Instead you need to take that hoop away from them, and make them jump through your hoops to hang out with you demonstating they are a guest in your reality. The other more direct way is to tell the girl your a busy person with a ton on your plate and have other things and people you could be doing/seeing and if u take time out of your schedule to see her she needs to follow through or just not make plans with you. The second way could definitely backfire, but with some girls a more direct style is needed. hope i helped man.