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| Mickstyle | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 9:36 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:12 pm Posts: 19 | | I got a number from a girl in my class HB7. We texted a little and talked about hanging out but certain things in our schedules conflicted. We get back from spring break and we hang out at my place and watch a movie, end up making out and talking more than watching the movie. She leaves and texts me thanks for hanging out with me we should do it again. Since then twice she has flaked on me. the most recent we made plans to hang out the night before but never specified a time. I text her the night were supposed to get together and tell her the time we should meet up. she replies saying she didnt hear from me and made other plans. she could have texted me asking if we were still on easier than it would have been to make other plans instead. Would you guys consider this flaking ? and regardless how do you deal with flakey girls ? Thanks!
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| Zikki | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 10:16 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:19 pm Posts: 398 Location: UK | | I punish them, shes making u jump thru hoops bro, dont do it.
I got a girl like that, I just ignore her, dont think about her and now she chasing me about like a blue assed fly
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| Mickstyle | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 11:26 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:12 pm Posts: 19 | | I've used the punishment before and it usually works. At the same time i want to try put her in my frame by telling her look im busy and have a lot on my plate and have other people and things i could be doing other than seeing you . I think that by saying that i would raise my social value and make it seem like im doing her a favor by seeing her in my busy schedule, makin her a guest in my reality. What do you fellas think ?
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| Zikki | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 11:36 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:19 pm Posts: 398 Location: UK | | this is what im saying bout ignore her,
I was chasing this girl with a lamebf and I destroyed him, took him out of the picture and put her in my frame. I then realised she was trying to frame me, get my jumpin thru hoops, throwing obsticiles in my path and making me persue.
I wernt gunna have that, I made a convincing enough case to get her out of her relationship now shes trying to put me in her pciture perfect bf frame and I aint having it lol. So I ignored her, when she invited me out I told her I was busy. I stoped txting her like I had been most days and just left her.
a) she needs to get her ex issues out when im not around otherwise i get put in the good friend box which aint happening
b) I needed her to realise we play on my terms not on her mood swings lol.
so now I got her eating off a plate, I say where she says when, I say now she says sure... I flipped her from framing me and putting me in persuit mode, to confusing her, sending mixed signals and taking back the control
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| Mickstyle | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 11:46 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:12 pm Posts: 19 | | For sure man I see where your coming from on that punishment / frame relationship and how one works with the other. good shit bro.
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| Zikki | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 12:07 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:19 pm Posts: 398 Location: UK | | anytime mate, Ive taken enough out of the community to put stuff back in.
you will get there in the end, just persevere. all depends what your targets are etc. Mine are probably completely different to yours I bet lol.
I want 3 gf's im regulary having sex with and are aware of eachother, preferably all bi and all hb9+'s lol
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| Mind Hacker | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 3:53 pm | |
Joined: Sun Jan 11, 2009 1:54 pm Posts: 633 | | Same situation here. After the k-close she completely changed.
Is this a common thing to happen?
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| Zikki | PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2009 4:10 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:19 pm Posts: 398 Location: UK | | its common because in some girls kissing isnt seen as nessacarily a framing tool. some girls have disconnected sex from kissing so much that they rarely have sex.
Its odd, but I think its kinda a shit test in some aspects, they want to know that ur up for it, but what u do with it is then down to u.
Ive K-closed girls and never spoke to them again. It depends what ur like after that and also how the kiss was.
U never know, u cudda rocked out some bad breath or summin and put her off. Altho im hopin personal higene doesnt need addressing really.
This is one of the big conundrums, technically if u k close and f cant be too far away, if u have enough rapport to kiss, surely there enuff rapport to funk?
Well obviously not, some girls purely get their kicks from kissing, they will never get a bad rep if they never go to far with blokes.
I think u guys need to assess in the social dynamic what sort of girls they are, party chicks? loose women? uptight? wild? boring?
The more u learn about her character the more you will be able to answer these questions urself.
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