One thing I've noticed is that guys who can sweep a girl off her feet are often really outgoing. How do you become that way?

In one way that seems a stupid question... You are who you are. But you can change who you are, and I know that I've done that. Part of it has just been letting my enthusiasm for things (theatre, film) show and not caring whether other people feel the same way, but there must be more.

What are your hot tips and training plans on how to become a more outgoing (alpha!) type person?? Thanks

P.

Basically it sounds like you need to work on your innergame my friend, here is a link that helped me ALOT.

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You generally need to be convinced that you are the man, and ACTUALLY be the man. Once that happens you have the confidence to approach anyone. Try different stuff throughout the day, like one day make sure you strike up conversation with at least 5 people, despite who they are. Old, young, guy, girl, catatonic, it doesn't matter. Just talking to people can make you outgoing. Also, if you REALLY wanna try to up your talk skills, get a job in retail, yeah, its going to be horrible, but think about all the people you are going to HAVE to talk to.

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Cheers, thanks - P