Im going to parties nearly everyweek so thats not a problem as lots of girls are there. My problem is how to approach, the music is loud so its hard to have full blown conversations. And how do I know if they have boyfriends? Usually after a few drinks i musta courage and walk up to a girl and ask her to dance but usually I get rejected which really puts me down especially if the girl is really hot. I dunno what to do, what do you guys think would be the best thing to do in this kind of situation at these kind of parties where 50 people are say on a small compact dance floor.

HELP! plz !

um i don't the music is really so loud that you can't basically approach and relocate

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Lol that didnt really make sense? I mean you could have a conversation. But it would have to be in there ear. Like i wanna know thebest way to get a girl up and dancing because just going and asking doesnt work. And if the girls already dancing its even harder.

Anyone?

Your biggest problem is you're trying to build rapport. In social gatherings (nightclubs, bars, house parties), ppl attend to escape conversation and indulge in fun. You have to learn how to break rapport.

I absolutely love club game. When you see a girl dancing by herself, stop trying to get her to open up. She doesn't know you & your're slowing down her fun. Break Rapport. Approach her already dancing, and bump hips with her. Do this in the most playful way, smile roll off and bump hips with her again (I OPEN every girl on the dance floor with this... so you can't tell me this doesn't work because I've field tested it countless times before).

Shoot "air" arrows at the girl like you're striking her with love, and you're cupid. I mean have fun with it... you don't necessarily even need to know how to dance to open girls in parties, just don't try and "Open" them so to say (opening as far as we know in pickup).

Say something slick like "Hey you keep bumping into me like that I'ma think you;'re trying to make me spill my drink." (Smiling As you Say this)) you see, thisdoes work. Because you're not seeking validation. You are giving value. You don't need anything, you're already assuming she's into you, and its obvious that she'd be flirting with you (not the other way around).

You need to learn how to social proof yourself. Practice going around high fiving people, pump yourself up before you approach you're targets. Trust me.

Game On.


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This is an examply of dance floor game:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sy8u1lsLBcE[/youtube]
And Afc Adam CAN'T DANCE (he said this himself, he just flows with the girl's body)

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Oo thx for the tips, thats some good stuff. Anyone else got any tips?

Dance-floor is where I pick up and look for a guy named juice or something he has a long thread answering peoples questions a lot of which relate to the dance floor.

I think the best think coke bell said was to pump yourself up, when you're in a loud environment the most powerful weapon you have in your arsenal is to get involved in the vibe. Just rock it, stop thinking 'why aren't any HB10's looking at me' and start thinking 'I'm hear to party, if that means I push over a lamp post and break some kids bmx, that's what it takes' - Just feed off the environment.

I think it was gunwitch who said you want to bring the right vibe to the girl, even if you're a nobody, if you're attitude's powerful she'll get involved.

the boyfriend thing, just make sure you've got some good guys at your back. A few weeks back I had a girl giving me a lot of IOI's and when i asked her who she was with she said her fiance who was 6'5" and shooting me an intensely obvious 'i am gonna fuck you up' stare. As he moved to front me, four of my boys moved in and started talking to me - he backed off quick.

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Thx for the tips mate, erm I can't seem to find the thread do you think you could link me? Would really appreciate it, cheers!

I need to post five times to post a link.

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lol.

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have a look at this:

anyone-needs-help-opening-on-the-dancef ... 33587.html

I didn't really take much away from it, but as I said prior I'm pretty good at the ol' dance floor. I think it'd be a pretty good read for a newbie.

there you go.

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Cheers man, defo helped !