I never really thought much about PUA's until a buddy of mine let me in on a few little secrets this week. I haven't known him for more than 2 months. We are on a pool team together and every week he shows up with a different hottie that isn't his g/f. It blows me away so I asked him for advice regarding this HB8 that I have been out on two dates with. Let me set this whole thing up and it will make more sense.

Last semester (I'm 25 btw) I took some classes at a community college b/c I got accepted to a local university and wanted to get back in the swing of things. There was this hot little 21 y/o that the first time I saw her I knew I needed to get to know her better. All semester I played it cool and in class did my best to DHV when possible. The last week of the semester, knowing that she had a b/f and she knew I had a g/f (and having problems), I gave her my number and told her that if she ever wanted to go for drinks, dinner, or just a ride on my motorcycle to give me a call to set something up. Remember this was the first week of Dec 2008.

To my amazement, last week she called and left me a VM. I called her later in the evening and we set up a meeting after work for dinner. I had her drive to where I work and took her to a pretty nice Hibachi place as I told her it was a good excuse to go back since I don't usually eat there. I just played it cool and did my best to keep the conversation on her and moving at all times. Luckily it was pool league night and by buddy (PUA) was blowing my phone making sure I was gonna be there. I used this as an excuse to invite her to come along. To my surprise she agreed to come along. During our time together the first night we talked about her bf and how they were having problems and basically done. So she had a few to many drinks over the course of the night so I played the nice guy and took her home and left the night with a hug. We did however agree to meet Saturday so that was good in my head.

We were supposed to go out Saturday for lunch, but I had to cancel and reschedule for dinner instead. We hit up a sit down hamburger joint and from there went to downtown and walked the water gardens. We stopped and talked for a while and everything was great! In fact I feel a connection with her, but I kept telling myself to put it out of my mind. During our conversations she told me that her bf dumped her Thursday night when she got home from being out with me. So that is good news for me right? I just did more of the same and tried to keep it cool and just be myself. By the time I had to go, we had set up a meeting for this Friday (tomorrow).

We texted back and forth a bit on Sunday, but nothing big was really said. Then on Monday I sent her a text to kinda outline what I had in mind for Friday. Much to my surprise, I didn't receive anything back from her. All day I started thinking that I pushed the issue to much and it was a turn off. In the middle of day on Tuesday she sent me a message asking what I was doing. Short and sweet I said "Working. what's up?" She immediately went into "I found out that my ex fucked one of my friends saturday night." From there I tried to console her and even invited her for drinks to get her mind off things. She declined b/c she had plans to go out with her girls. I told her that was probably better and to have a good time. I would call her friday. She replied back only with a "Thanks"

So I have been racking my brain for tomorrow's date. I was thinking of taking her to her fav place, but it is kinda pricey and I don't want to keep displaying that I am trying to impress her. Instead I'm thinking of something like Chili's or Friday's. From there I have a nice spot to take her and I thought it would be nice to take a couple pics of/with her and twist it to say at least now you can see what your ex is missing. Something to make her feel good! From there I plan on surprising her with a bungee jumping place. It is always an ice breaker. It shows that I am fun, think outside of the box, and a bit of a bad boy when I can get up there and just jump like its nothing. Depending on the time after that we can just get drinks and reflect on the day. I want to show her some spontaneous fun stuff, but then bring it back to a kiss at the end of the night.

My problem is that I feel the ball is in her court and I'm out of control of the game right now. My buddy gave me 8 frames to set in her mind to keep things interesting for me.
1. I'm the prize. I split with my gf earlier this week and I'll tell her im not really looking to date anyone for a while. Make her want something she cant have.
2. She can't handle me. This shouldn't be a problem, I carry myself this way naturally. I have already done this without knowing it and it has gotten pretty good feed back already. A little kino thrown in there helped too.
3. She wants me. Again this is just flirty fun here. Maybe the undressing me with her eyes bit would be a good one for this. Haven't used it yet.
4. Her being crazy or a creeper. I'm gonna use a story about my ex from this week when we split to tell her how all girls are crazy and how I feel that I can't find a good one.
5. She is not classy. Two ways of doing this. Either remind her of the guacamole that she dropped on her the last date or tell her for the surprise that we are going to the strip club b/c I thought it was something she would be in to. She would breath a sigh of relief when we pull up to the bungee place. Either way set the frame that I think she is not classy so she will try to prove me wrong.
6.She's nerdy. We have covered this already. I picked her up at Barnes and Noble for our 2nd date since I was running late from having to reschedule.
7.She wants to be like me. This is where bungee jumping comes in. I can just jump without any 2nd thoughts. I have never seen anyone not back out or at least back down the first time.
8. She's rude. Setting this frame should be easy b/c she will probably be eager to talk bad about her ex. I can throw it in where it fits.

I have already learned a little about how to neg and that it is a push/pull game. I will do it enough to keep things interesting and it seems to work well pretty much all the time.

Any advice from anyone would be good or tell me if it all sounds good. I need to try to improve the situation so that I feel that I'm back in control.

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