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SP,
Ha ha . . . you're no creep but you were passive. Putting her in all of your Internet groups is a "passive" demonstration of your attraction to her. This isn't cocky nor is it funny. Don't be afraid to turn up that cocky/funny dial to 11.
So far, your "push" was to ignore her with that "I'm a cool kid so I'll just leave you alone like you don't even matter." Method.
Your "pull" was a drag of your mouse to put her in face book and an invitation to hang out with your buddies. These are barely "tugs" right? Instead, imagine yourself verbally manhandling her. You're "verbally" going to grab her with your meat hooks and shake her back and forth. . . she won't even know what hit her. It works something like:
You: (Say nothing, just stare . . . smile . . . nod approvingly)
Her: WTF? (She'll laugh nervously too)
You: You're looking hot . . . you turn me on! . . . [PULL]
Her: What? Get outta here . . . (or if she's more experienced and you're in some club or party, she might go . . . "I'm not having sex with you OK?")
You: Woh, woh . . . slow down, who do you think I am? I am NOT going to have sex with you . . .no way . . . [PUSH]
Her: blah, blah, blah
You: Well, no I take that back. Maybe after the third date, I'll consider having sex with you. I am a gentleman . . . [PULL]
Her: blah, blah, blah. (Doesn't matter what the hell she says as long as she's still standing there. If she's still standing there, it's because SHE LIKES YOU and the conversation you're having)
You: First date, I'll show up with flowers, chocolate . . . I'm very traditional. At best, you'll get a kiss on the cheek from me on the first date. [I don't know, is this a push or pull?]
Her: blah, blah
You: Then of course after the third date, we'll get freaky. [pull]
Her: blah, blah (or in the most extreme case, "we ARE NEVER going to get freaky")
You: Wait, are you . . . Oh . . . you're right. We are definitely not going to get freaky. Why, that's crazy! I would never get freaky with you either. [Push]
Her: ???
You: OK, OK . . .Because you're conservative, maybe I'll wait until our 5th date. Yeah . . . 5th date . . . it sounds right and it feels right. We'll go on our 5th date, AND THEN we'll fuck our brains out. It'll be the longest I've waited but I can do this for you. [PULL]
Her: Blah, blah . . .(By now, even the bitchiest girls just go along with it. Most will go along with this "script" right after you begin)
This is an example of pushing and pulling with C&F. This works because you're talking about YOU and HER. 3rd dates, 5th dates . . . even though the whole thing is a joke, you're telling her that you're offering more than a "wham bam" (without really telling her). The entire exchange is sexual. And as you do this, you want to get closer. When you tell her sexual stuff, you could whisper in her ear. When you tell her that you will only "kiss her on the cheek" you go, "like this", and give her that innocent peck on the cheek. You just BLANKET her with this stuff. And this is MUCH different than being the social "attention getter" of the crowd. This is the type of stuff that gets girls grabbing your hand and dragging you away quietly to an empty room.
Oh! Wow, I had no idea being that overt was LITERALLY the way to go. For some reason, I saw the balls to the wall examples as just that, extreme hypothetical situations. Apparently not, Im going in for a field test.