So ive been chatting to an old friend for a while, just by text and stuff and have seen her at occasions but not really gone anywhere with it and im not trying to game her, im not sure if im really into her so i guessed i just need to spend some time with her to decide if i like her in that way or not. Anyway this is a convo i had with her today, shes been ill with a bad throat by the way which will make sense in the convo.

Basically we were chatting and then i asked if she'd like to go out for a drink.

Me: Fancy goin for a drink when your feeling better and can talk? lol im not too good with sign language x

Her: Haha, yeah! As friends tho? x

Me: Haha! No you have to marry me and have 20 kids if you go for a drink with me thats the rules lol, yea of course as friends x

Her: Lol! I'll let you know when sign language is no longer required! x

Did she just assume that if i wanna go for a drink then i wanna sleep with her? Why do girls do that? Like i said im not sure how much i like her yet because i dont really know her personality that well and how she really is so thought i'd just get to know her more and then decide.

No one got any advise?

Women always assume that you want to sleep with them because they are constantly being chased by needy, sappy, desperate men.

Your C&F response was a great way to disqualify her and take control of the dynamic....nice work.

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Thanks, so should i just wait for her to be in touch now do you think?

I disagree. You either go Cocky Funny or you don't. You don't tell her,
And then stick your tail between your legs and go, "yes, yes, as friends . . ."

This schizophrenic instability is what's F'ing you over. As I read you're writing, even I can tell that you want to fuck this girl. However, your talking yourself out of it. What do you think will make you feel you want to "go for her"? You think she will put her self out on a platter for you? . . . Or you want to "feel' this girl out first? This is first class wussy shit and girls don't dig wussy.

Look, you're on a PICK UP forum asking questions because you want to PICK THIS GIRL UP. It's as simple as that. If you can't admit this to yourself, then what chances do you have in convincing a girl? Believe me, she can feel that you dig her . . . but she can also sense that you're also a pansy.

1. Be serious. This is a fun little game but so is checkers. If your goal is to "maybe win" or "maybe lose", what's the point?

2. You already F'd yourself over with the "of course as friends" comment. She already tossed you to the "friends" column. Do NOT ever bring this up with her again.

3. Start dictating your shit. You don't make excuses for wanting to sleep with her. You don't create situations where you need to "wait on her". You tell her, where, when, and how.

So she tossed me to the friends column, whats wrong with being friends with her if i dont want to game her? The actual question was to do with her reaction and the assumption that i wanted to sleep with her just because i asked if she fancied a drink. Yea im on a pick up forum but i thought allot of guys would understand the psychological background to allot of things and thats what i was asking for. I wanted to understand her response and assumption, not advice on where i went wrong or how i should game her as thats not what im set out to do, she may be an intesting girl or she may not and thats why i would like to spend time with her over a drink to find out how interesting she is, not so i can just fuck her and be done with it.

Why?

Purely because since reading the game and looking a little deeper into PUA its intrigued me into the psychology behind it all more than actually picking up girls. I find it fascinating how the mind works and have all my life observed the difference in mens and womens mental attitude towards things and just the way they think differently to certain things.

Thanks, so should i just wait for her to be in touch now do you think?

Treat her like one of your male friends. Call her out when she starts to act up, bust on her, text only to confirm plans, etc.

If you are concerned about whether or not you should contact her 'first', you may be a little more attached than you think. If that's the case, don't call her.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene