I want to have sex with a girl I dated a couple years back. We kissed and had a thing going back then coz she was interested in me.

A couple years later, she still talks dirty to me. Not directly to me but about things she's tried and wants to. The other day we were talking about her wanting to get a vibrator.

So I cant seal the deal. Everytime I drop a sexual comment, she calls me a cheeky so and so and the conversation pretty much ends.

What u guys suggest?

I don't want to be with her. I just want to jam her!

Why are you stopping when she calls you a cheeky so-and-so?

That's a sort of soft-resistance that girls will throw out as a way of seeming like they're not sluts.

She's not even really saying no, but you're interpreting it as a no.

Take it from me, it's not a no. As long as she knows you're okay with her saying no and taking a step back, then feel free to agree that you ARE a cheeky so-and-so, then continue.

But as soon as you get a hard, solid no, which is a verbal no, her moving your hand away or something else that CLEARLY says no, you better stop or you risk charges being laid (not saying it's fair, but it's the truth).

And lastly, manage expectations. Let her KNOW you don't want anything serious and be honest with her. Be ready to take 'no' as an answer.

On your bike then.

Cinnamon

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Mate to be honest, she's a prick tease. I've been out with her a few times (I'm talkin a few years ago) and she brushed me off when I was trying to come onto her.

I need a strategy!

When she calls me a 'cheeky so-and-so' we're at the height of textual intercourse! It feels like she halts the progress by giving this cheeky line. Coz its followed by nothing else. Just a 1 liner.

She's only a cock-tease because you don't make her go through with what she says. Why do you stop when she calls you cheeky?

Cinnamon

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Then why are you wasting your time?

To quote Mystery - its never the girls fault, its allways your own.

Its not her fault you can't game her into having sex with you man. I'd say you failed her shit tests - if she calls you cheeky - dont let it throw you off your game, just let it pass and keep it up.

I dont stop at her shit tests. Thing is, when I reply, she doesn't text back. This is most times the case. I don't wanna seem this desperado coz believe me that's what it'll come across. Persistence is good but when you get the feeling she wants to stop the conversation, u have to.

I should take her out.

To quote Mythbusters "Well there's your problem".

Text messages are too easy to ignore. And you can't cope a feel over text.

Get her out on a date, keep your sexual frame up, don't stop for shit tests or soft resistance. Only then will you be able to get her into your bed.

Cinnamon

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