This question is the one most often asked since the inception of the pick-up artist community. My normal answer (and most other peoples' answer) is a pretty dismissive "You don't." This art is more like napalm than a laser-beam; you don't get That One Girl/Guy, you get a bunch of girls/guys and figure out which ones you like the best. Or I'll hit the old fall-back of "Go fuck ten other women, come back and let me know if the shine's still on her."

I've realized, though, that I owe you guys a real answer. The "fuck ten other women" answer isn't going to happen for months or years (keep in mind that only 7% of men in North America have slept with more than 20 women in their _lifetime_). And "You don't," is a bald-faced lie. People do it all the time.
So. How _do_ you get Tog?

First thing's first, you need to work on some damage control. Understand that up until you started looking for an answer on how to get Tog, (s)he viewed you as an unattractive individual, someone in whom she had little or no interest. That could be for a variety of reasons, but the most simple answer usually being the right one, it is likely because you are an unattractive individual as-is. You will need to change that.

There are two culprits when it comes to being unattractive: first is attitude, second is appearance. Appearance is easier to fix, though, so let's talk about that for a moment. I'm sure you've noticed that there are entire sections of forums devoted to the idea of hygiene, grooming, and fashion. There are few, if any, on the topic of plastic surgery. Chances are, you are not ugly. Very few people are. But you can increase your chances of being seen as an attractive person by taking steps to improve your hygiene, grooming and fashion. I won't recap what all of those threads say here, but understand that this is a necessity.

An attractive attitude is all about confidence. I don't personally subscribe to the Alpha Male bullshit I see spewed all about the forums, but the concept of confidence being attractive in a man (and a woman) is very true. COnfidence means a few things: you say what you want to say when you want to say it, in a clear voice without hesitation. Your body language implies that you are comfortable wherever you happen to be. Most importantly, you are not deferential; you make decisions and stick to those decisions, and are capable of bringing others with you to see the decision through. All of this is talked about in nearly every facet of the forums, so peruse and take what you will from it.

Understand also that if you continue doing things the way you are doing them, you will continue to get what you've always gotten. In this case, if you do not accept that things about you will need to change somewhat, you will not get Tog, or any other target of quality. If change is something you are uncomfortable with to the point that you cannot perform such necessary changes to get the person you are interested in, you obviously don't care _that_ much.

The above concepts are very general to the core concepts of "game." When it comes to the specifics of getting Tog to like you, you need to go a bit further in regards to damage control.

You will need to be out of her life for a bit, or at least far more distant from it than you are at the moment. This will give her time to solidify in her head the concept she has of the "old you," while you work on making the "new you."

(S)he has already categorized you in his/her mind as a person with whom (s)he does not want to have a sexual or romantic relationship. This means you will need to present Tog with a new version of yourself, incorporating the above, with things that would be completely alien to how you typically do things. It doesn't need to be something weird, but it does need to be something weird for _you_. You need to hit the metaphorical "Reset Button" in Tog's head, refreshing his/her view of you, and providing you with a blank slate from which to work.

You will need to hit all of the attraction switches that you would normally need to hit with a target you approached cold. You will need to show that you are preselected, that you have options should you choose to take them. You will need to show that you are capable of protecting and/or nurturing your loved ones. You will need to show that you have grown into a leadership role, and are capable of having others do what you want. Zip's students are working on a set of attraction switches unique to men, and I cannot yet speak for homosexual attraction switches, but these are the classics, so they're what I'm going with. ^_^

You will need to make statements of intent and interest, and they will need to completely lack vagueness. You should prepare a few of these ahead of time, things you will say that will make it impossible for Tog to misinterpret your intentions.
You will need to be prepared to deal with objections. Typically, when you're selling something (even yourself) your potential buyer will have a list of concerns that you will need to deal with before you make the sale. These things are seldom actual reasons for not buying, they are more like requests for you, the salesperson, to show them why those concerns are not actually concerns. A couple of ways you can deal with objections would be to treat those objections like a question, or find ways that the objection itself is a reason for the two of you to be together. You will need to be a damned fine salesperson and sell your ass. I'll be writing a longer post on objections in dating some time in the future.

Most importantly, you will need to be willing to lose Tog, as both a romantic partner and a friend. An outward display of sexual and romantic interest in a truly uninterested party can strain friendly relationships to the point of breaking. Either that person is going to become your new partner, or you will never speak to that person again. Sometimes, this is not true, and it is great to hope for the best, but prepare for the worst and understand that your relationship with this person may never be fixed after the damage of a failed romantic approach.

I hope this helps some of you, and I honestly hope that it does not encourage you to stop working on your dating and pick-up skills. While this guide can sometimes help you get your own Tog, you will have far more success with napalm than trying to find a laser-beam.

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