Hey,

I know that with some girls, you can get away with not being nice but others don't. Some women want to feel loved before sleeping with you right?

I know some pple might say "no you have to just keep being strong and alpha" but you do have to say nice stuff to some girls before being able to escalate far enough, no?

I'm not the type of guy who can easily say nice stuff or act romantically, and when I do I mostly laugh so the girl doesn't know if I'm serious or not so I realise I should learn this stuff too.

Some girls won't open up completely if they aren't sure you really like them. I think this is where teasing (I'm a big teaser, always making fun of the girl but sometimes I push it too far) can work against you if you overdo it.

What do you think about it? I'm kind off a romantic disaster.

It's ok to be a romantic disaster. Women seem to think that the average guy is romantically disabled. It's better than the alternative (being overly needy). What works for me is to say nice things about her during times where you want to reinforce her behaviour. for example say nice things after sex or if you havent had sex with her then while you're fooling around or whatever. I usually work towards getting more serious as the relationship progresses. At first the compliments come off reluctant and usually are a little back-handed. For example I like to tell her that she's "kinda cute". The rest is just sensing when you've pushed to far and need to start pulling. The more you like her, the more you can compliment her but whenever I've dropped the C/F completely, it spelled disaster so you've got to sprinkle it in every once in a while or else things get dull.

Thx, I really have lots of problems complimenting people (even just friends, so its not only in dating, everyone likes a compliment once in a while, I admit that even I love getting compliments from pple (if they seem genuine)).

I've allready seen people making excessive compliments to girls and get their way with it, then I always thought to myself "what the fuck, is this girl stupid? Isn't she seeing he's faking it?". But now I realise that girls just think so differently than we do.

Now I don't want to become a phony excessive complimenting pussy, but not being able to say nice stuff has allready worked a lot against me before.

What do you mean by c/f? Cocky funny?

The community gets really messed up with the whole "alpha" persona of being an asshole. Being alpha does NOT mean being an asshole, it's about leading and having a strong sense of reality. You can still be nice, but still make fun of her. For instance on complimenting, only give it to her when she genuinely deserves it. Be C/F if it's who you are, but don't feel limited to being an asshole because it's "alpha", cuz it isn't.

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