Hey guys I’m a 17 years old I’m not new to this site but I do really need your guys help on a situation I’m in. Last week i was hanging out with the singer in my band and his friends and i met this girl who is his best friend. She was sweet and absolutely beautiful and I talked to her and it went well that night. So i really wanted to meet her again so my friend and I are setting up a bbq at my house n were gonna combine my group of friends with his and she’s gonna be there. i have a couple problems that I would love if you guys can give me your thoughts on.
1) With a group of ten people I know to be the leader of group but how long into it should i focus on just talking to her and how should I go about that.
2) my friends know I’m going for her so if i fail I’m going to look bad should i care cause i don’t want them thinking i can’t get a girl
3) What should be my goal for the night regarding the girl i think could be great for me

since its not ONS you're going for, I'd say go for K-close or N-close


still be dominant but don't maintain the leader role the entire time

talk to her when she's with friends, maybe isolate and run a routine or two on her

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First off, don't think too hard about it or you'll end up crashing and burning. But to answer your questions:
1) I don't know exactly how your hangout session will be set up, but if she's coming in alone or with a friend you can isolate right there and then introduce them to your friends later on then re-isolate if need be. But if you're all going out to pick her up, play the group and make sure you're the one who is the source of all the good emotions. You'll notice that sometimes people will start talking seperately to each other, at that time you could isolate. Or you can force an isolation by noticing something about her and then move her or tell her to go get some BBQ. Basically don't think too much, you'll end up isolating your own way once you get the ball rolling.

2) I've had this mentality as well before, but if you think about it that way, it will happen. You should be enjoying the moment and be engaging everyone. If you don't hook up with the girl, who gives a shit cuz you had fun that night.

3) Your goal is to have fun. That's it. If you get the girl, props to you.

Closing note: Make sure you're just having a good time man and make sure you sexually escalate because in those kinds of environments it's so easy to just fall into comfort and ultimately the dreaded LJBF zone. Good luck!

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