Hi,

I slept with my housemate about three months ago and I ended up having a typical case of one-itis, we have been trying to be friends since all that happened and I have had my best intentions but she keeps being horrible to me because she feels hurted for some reason I don't know, it is a pretty shitty situation as she lives next door to me and I just can't be horrible to her because all I want now is to have a peaceful SPAM at home but at the same time every time she tries to ignore me or drops any loaded coment I feel really bad, I wish I could stop her somehow.

Does any one have any advice for these types of situations?

Thanks

Can you feed us with a tad more background info? Were you in a relationship? Did you end it or her? Were you drunk at the time? Have you had girlfriends or girls round since? Anything at all?

Guess we can skip the part where I tell you what a dumb idea it is to hook up with a housmate in the first place...guess we didn't skip it after all.

Anyways a little more info would be good. was it just a drunken hook-up? were there feelings involved? have you guys talked about it? Context is key when asking these kinds of questions so provide as much detail as possible.

Yep, it was a very dumb idea and I've learnt the lesson, there were feelings involved and it all was very intense as we seemed to be very similar and compatible but then after about three weeks sort of seeing each other she started playing these silly games, like ignoring me when she was with her friends, dropping other guys' names in the conversation etc.. when we agreed to be friends she changed completelly and hasn't really been amicable to me at all, I am totally up for being friends again and went over my feelings already have always being correct but it makes me feel like an idiot because it's not reciprocal. I slept with another girl in the house and she knew it but she pretended that this didn't affect her.

She always says that she have never had feelings for me but I don't think this is true and it is me who has to cut it which I think I did already at this point and all I want is to be good friends with her.

It kind of makes sense to me now that I should start giving her a taste of her own shit in order for me to feel well and not letting her do whatever she wants to me, but I feel like Im to nice for that, what would you guys do in a similar situation? I want to get my self-esteem back when I am with her. This is affecting me to pull other chicks.