Hey guys, so ill give you the quick story here.

Basically im interested in this girl at my work whos only been there for about 2 months. After talking to her a few times, she seems like a girl i would definitely be interested in, very pretty and very nice. The other day I went in to buy some pillows, and she was actually working, I was just talking with her casually then i asked her to help me out. Everything was going fine until one of the other employees that I work with came up and literally embarassed me! He asked me what i was doing here on my day off, so i answered "just getting a pillow" He responds by saying "You're not here just to get a pillow, come on, I know why you're here!" Basically implying that I was only there to see this girl. It caught me off guard, and it was so akward, and I looked at her and she was smiling but I didnt even know what to say other then laugh and say I was literally there only to buy pillows. Anyways after he left I was so embarassed I took off as fast as I could and wished her a good weekend.

Any ideas how I should handle this girl? Do you think with this guy saying this, he could of really screwed this up for me or am i just overreacting? I want to ask her out, but the fact of possibly being rejected and seeing her everyday at work would suck. Even though I know rejection is all apart of it and you're suppose to learn from it. Thanks guys!

Hey Gila,

what's the worry ?, why wallow in insecurity when you could charge with confidence ?

The other guy played a classic one-up, you're now in a conventional competitive situation. Take heart with the knowledge that you can win this game if you keep some basic biological truths at the fore of your thinking. Essentially:

1) This girl is hard wired to be looking for a boyfriend.
2) She won't be able to stop herself if you present the right traits.
3) these traits are 'strong' & purposeful, 'respecting' & 'caring', and finally funny and humorous.

if you do all of these things you will score with this girl.

Have fun !

PhilZ.

http://thesecretlivesofman.blogspot.com/

I have said it before and will say it again, a wise man once told me " Never mix pleasure with business ". I never never ever ever date co-workers, things could just get ugly. I do however preactice my routines on them!

I agree with lock. I once dated a co-worker and we ended up breaking up and she told everyone at work I have a small penis

Damn, that line was jacked up "Don't lie I know why your here"

I would've of either said "Why am I here?"
Or totally ignored him, fuck that would've of been hilarious if you just gave your back to him and kept talking to the girl.

She works with you, so you have a lot of time even if she says no it doesn't matter cause you just keep gaming after that.

It's even easier cause you can display all your best qualities and she'll see for sure.

You can also make her jealous, talk to other co workers or the customers if your down.

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Getting the Hang of things

thanks for the advice guys, ill let you guys know how it goes down for sure!

hey guys just wanna update whats going on here. Before you read i just want to let u know im just really new to this dating thing because ive dated a girl for about 4 years and we broke up a couple of months ago. So meeting new girls has actually been really tough for me.

So we've just been talking here and there at work and stuff. Tonight, I actually mentioned to her that I was going to florida and she said "i will love u forever if u do this for me, can u get me mickey mouse's autograph" I was thinking to myself, umm ok, so i was just like yea for sure not a problem. I was getting so sick and tired of this little back and foreth talk for the past couple of weeks i just wanted to come out and say like hey lets go for coffee, but instead i ended up saying "k well if i get u that autograph, u owe me one! u gotta buy me a coffee! " she kinda just laughed n said she would. As soon as that happened i was interupted by a customer and that was that.

Sooo...im just so lost. I dont even know if shes interested in me, should of i just asked her to go for a coffee, or do i wait and make sure shes actually just interested. Should i start small and asking her to go on break with eachother or something? i just dont really wanna ruin this! Thanks again for the help.