I started dating my Ex 3 years ago and for the first 2 years we where steady then in the last year we have been on and off alot...when we are off i will pick up my game and fuck everything that moves especially in the last couple of months as i think it is properly over now.
For the last 3 weeks we havent spoken at all but then i met up with her the other day for a catch up.... towards the end of the night and after a few drinks,i kissed her. I think she knew that i wanted to takle her back to mine but made up some excuse and went shortly after...that was last week we were supposed to meet up again but she made some crappy excuse about being unwell. I ignored her, since then she has sent me an e-mail saying to meet up for coffee one day after work but i know her and that is all she will want and probably make a point of not kissing me if i try - i want to take control, i cant use opener, i can use kino but i dont think that is enough what can i do to get nail her with out going back out with her???

3 C's

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Cool, Calm & Collected!!!

It's definitely Lupus.

Whats Lupos?

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YOU?

Kasabi thats helpful thanks

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3 C's what is that you're asking bro?
Do you want this girl back as your girlfriend or do you just want help in finding a way to fuck her one more time, and maybe a few after that?

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Peace, Finchy!

Finchy i had a moment today where i realised what it is?!?!? Basically i put that post up and was a little confused...today i reflected and thought about thingts some what clearer. I now realise what it is! I dont really care about her or even love her anymore i just miss her wanting me. You see the relationship from the start has always been her wanting me more, her doing more things for me etc etc and its always been that way...untill recently, now that she has probably gotten over me and doesnt do those things; i miss that and not her and i supose i just need to drop it as its not fair for me to chase her to be like that again just to make me a player...lol i also think now that the chase is back on again it makes me want her but thats my ego and not my feelings i think i need to carry on chasing other broads. I am still confused though because i still want her but as you can read from above i know why i do and its probably wrong to persue...but then again you always want what you cant have and i doubt there is a cure for that...is that what Lupos is?? lol
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If you analyze human relations enough, you will always be able to retroactively think of all the "reasons" for everything whether it's true or not true. Honestly, I can't think of any of my personal relationships with girls where I can't think back and figure out somehow, "WHY" that girl was so into me and "WHY" I was so into her.

This is our game . . . we do our best CREATE the "why's" . . . right?

Just because you can somehow figure out "why" you're into that girl doesn't mean your emotions are any less or more valid than if you couldn't figure out the reasons for your emotions. So it's OK to feel what you're feeling. . . nothing wrong with that. But if you have analyzed that those emotions are probably not worth pursuing, then you simply channel those emotions elsewhere. This is what a mindful, stable person does. He has the ability to check his emotional state, the reasons for those emotions, and address them accordingly.

What does 99% of the World do instead? They feel and then they simply do. A girl gets angry at her co-worker, then she yells at her boyfriend, or she eats chocolate, or she goes shopping, or she . . . . Hey, how about meditating on the reason for those emotions and then calmly addressing them with the "co-worker"? The very reason why our game is so damn easy is because most people don't even know why they just maxed out their cards on brand name bags. I can tell you why . . . it's the same reason why she's sucking my cock and keeping the change.

Like I wrote above, you can ALWAYS figure out what's going on. Yes, it takes the mystery or perhaps even in someways the romance out of it but what you're doing is exactly the initial steps necessary for one to actually make a decision or two in life.

I hear ya 3 C's, I was in the same boat at one point... What you miss is the feeling of having a woman want you.. If you build solid game and apply it you will find that you will obtain many woman giving you the attention you seek... I wouldn't try to seek it from an ex anymore tho, move forward..

Lupus or Lupus erythematosus

A chronic auto-immune disease where the body's immune system turns on itself. Early symptoms manifest the the epidermal layer of the body as raised blots of discolored skin. Fatal if left untreated.

Seems like it's dead if she isn't in contact for 3 weeks at a time.

You can resuscitate it, but it's prolly better for everyone involved to just move on.

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