Hi Guys,

Looking for some pointers with a trainer who works at my gym. I have just come out of a LTR so am very new to game and really am at the beginning. When I joined the gym about 5 months ago (still with my GF at the time) I noticed this particular trainer checking me out. Looking and looking away etc I caught her looking at me a few times in the mirror. This is how I actually noticed her and how attractive she is. Now I am out of my LTR I want to game her but need some advise where to start.

I have to be honest, that since I have realised how gorgeous she is I have been doing the same thing to her, checking her out when she is not looking etc etc and I have to be honest, I have not caught her looking at me recently. Have I left it to long??

I have spoken to this girl once and I was only to ask some training advise, this was two or three months ago now and have spoken to her since.

Where or what do I do from here, I feel the longer I leave things the less off a chance I have,

Should I be direct?? Just get it out of my system….

I have approach anxiety too, which is the first part of my game I need to work on, or do I leave this girl until I get my game up to scratch,

Advice please.

Thanks

In your particular situation you need to DHV big time bro... If she is a hot chick in a gym full of horny gym rats, she is used to the same old roid monkeys checking her out and hitting on her... Be the different guy, the one with value not the biggest biceps...

The best way to get over your approach anxiety is to 'approach', but do it without all the added pressure you place on yourself.

Don't worry about saying all the right things, just talk, keep it simple. Have a friendly, upbeat, fun conversation (with all girls, not just her) until you start to feel comfortable enough to escalate.

Keep in mind you may not get the results you want right away, but don't let this discourage you. The goal is to get over your anxiety, not bang her (or any girl) on the first attempt.

If she does start to feel you, play it cool, don't start wagging your tail and getting all anxious.

_________________
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

In this situation you need to treat her as if she is a Hired Gun. SHe has men drooling all over her all day the last thing she wants is some AFC doing the same thing.

I would ask her for advise and when she is showing you stuff try and put in some mild negs. The last thing you want to do is insult her about her job so make them funny negs. Like "Ok, you can do more sit ups then I can put no doubt I look better doing them."

I personally would work on approach before I tried my hand at a Hired Gun. Head out to the clubs and work on openers. It will build confidence.

Thanks for the info guys, all good advice, please keep it coming,

Like stated above, just be different then most of the guys in there. Definately work on your approach and comfort in conversations Like Smooth noted. This is her place of employment though, so scripted stuff and situational openers aren't really going to make it happen IMO.

I managed to game a 30 year old personal trainer into her cell number for non-work related purposes as well as emailed pics(semi-nudes) when i went back to college(im only 20) and I was possibly going to get a lay when i went back home for thanksgiving but she got back together with her husband .

What seemed to work for me was starting off on professional grounds and just getting to know her by asking questions during a fitness orientation and being cocky funny when it came to her trying to sell me personal training sessions. From there it just turned into casual conversations(a lot of convo, i worked out almost everyday that summer) and i would enlighten her about my weekend of binge drinking and blacking out. I think what lended to my partial success was the fact that i made her feel young again through my stories so if there's any way that you can possibly do this to your particular PT i would advise for it(Their profession is based around getting fit and looking young, if shes older take advantage of that and make her feel good about herself).

My logic might be flawed cause of the specific circumstances of her almost getting a divore from her husband and wanting to feel young again by turning to me but i hope you can gain something out of it.