Here are my problems:

1) I am stuck right now....I have a gf of 2 years, dont want one....and getting hit on by GORGEOUS chicks.

2) I think I have relied on my looks all these years...I THINK...I am the type that girls look at and think "OMG he is really cocky" and have been told that since age 15 (im 24 but look 18 lol)

^-Which I dont see why...im insecure, ONLY 5'7, to my opinion average looking, always told i look like cam gigandet from never back down, J timberlake, ryan phillippe, brad pitt etc. BUT im ONLY 5'7!!! i feel so short around EVERYONE


3) I went over this chicks house and I just dont feel the game I once had...I did some shit with her and chilled two nights in a row...had game but im so hesitant bc its close to my gfs house so i think i ruined it bc of that.

4) I get A LOT of numbers from girls...but it seems like they want NOTHING to do with me after...even if they think I am AMAZING looking...
-WHY IS THIS?!?!?!?

I know this is scattered but if anyone can have ANY input into what I should do with these situations let me know

ALSO...Honest to God im not trying to be cocky when I tell you this stuff...Im just really confused...

Hopefully you're asking an earnest question and not seeking to validate your ego,

1. That's your own decision. If you're not happy in a relationship, then why be in one.

2. You need work on your inner game. It's a good thing that you're good looking. 5 foot 7 isn't that short, so just chill out.

A lot of guys would kill to be good looking, so stop moaning about stuff.


3. Again, this relates to question 1 because it's really down to your relationship with your gf. If you are exclusive then dont cheat on her. It's really up to your decision. We, users on this forum, cannot impose personal decisions on you.


4. From what it sounds like, your inner game needs a lot of work! Maybe that's why they are turned off from a guy that is insecure.

When you get numbers, are they flakes?

What I need from you is to describe why they want nothing to do with you. Is it because you say some stupid shit that turns them off? Is it because you feel like they are messing with you. You need to fill us in with the details.

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IAm-Me has some good advice.

1. As stated, that's your choice. If you happy stay there. If not, don't. But - don't make the mistake of thinking the grass is greener. Sounds like your inner game is a bit all over the place (normal for alot of guys), and therefore, if single, you might lose your natural pulling power.

I have a friend who had terrible game, he got into a LTR with a HB9, and now is a natural. If he was to break up with her, i recon his game would return to it's previous state.


2. Sounds like you have some positive traits. + the good looks. Great. (also, i'm 5' 8" - it really doesn't matter.)

3. Again, inner game. Needs work.

4. Girls flaking. Maybe it's related to your good looks. They may think "Oh his games not bad, but i'll take his number because he's hot." Then regret it later.

It's a case of buyer remorse. Often the case when comfort isn't high enough.

You can attract them, but they don't feel comfortable enough, to see you again.


Some things to think on.

Wolfus.

hey fellas

you two guys have given me some great advice that i appreciate. I know this message is really scattered and you cannot draw a good hypothesis based on what i have wrote.

Ill try to be more detailed with the gf situation first. For starters I DO NOT feel the attraction I once felt, and her constant complaining and nagging has pushed me to my limit and then some. I feel like i may have wasted 2 years of her life and my life. I feel terrible for doing this but I cannot help how I feel. Im too much of a wuss to break it off.

As far as the girls I have met and picked up...I know for a fact my confidence (inner game) is not there like i was prior to the gf. I need to work on that, but how? I know I built tremendous comfort level because other girls cannot get enough of me. i think its this...

One thing that has really bothered me is, well ill try to explain it....I am sitting down in class, the seat next to me is open and class is about to start and people are walking in and most seats are taken...ppl look at my seat and look at me, then pick another seat. it wasnt until it was the LAST seat that someone sat next to me. this happens ALL THE TIME in similar and not so similar situations.

At work im the last person ppl will talk to, in class, and ANYWHERE, yet i can strike up a convo w/a stranger anywhere lol....u prob think i am crazy, and i understand why ha

What can I do to build more comfort and be more approachable to other people? Im a friendly guy that will talk to anyone so i dont get it. what is this vibe im sending out???

If you don't want a girlfriend then end it with her. Staying in a relationship that you do not want is pretty dumb.
Cockiness more has to with body language than your actual physical looks.
To be frank you are short for a guy. But you need to come to terms with it. Other wise it will effect you and your ability to get girls. As girls will detect it and be turned off by it.

Sounds like you need to work on your inner game, and get out of your current relationship if it was also holding you back.
My guess (assuming they are all real) is that they are just not that into you.

I'm curious, what are the other two 'threats' if you are ONLY good looking?
Their sense of attraction was purely physical, and probably greatly influenced by a high stimulus environment (nightclub per say). This means that the feeling was entirely state dependent, and when you call her the next day and she is in a different state, those feelings of attraction will be gone. In order to secure day 2's you need to forge an emotional connection and relate to the girls. That being said, girls are fickle and quite often want nothing to do with you later even if you had an awesome time. Don't let it get to you.
Cut the cord. Seriously. It will make you feel so good afterwards. Right now it seems daunting because you naturally feel a sense of security. Also, we all have a very strong drive to do what is familiar, whether or not it is useful to us. Just straight up tell her it's over. If you really want to be a pussy, then after you start to get more success and options with women, then this step will be much easier to take.
Reps. You got to actually talk to hot girls and lead the conversation to a flirtatious point, over and over. You can also do things like reading books or material such as NLP or whatnot that can drastically improve your outlook and self-beliefs. You have to internalize the 'I am the prize' mentality and that any woman that does not accept you, simply has bad taste. (plus you learn from every interaction)
Okay. Assuming you are quite good looking, it is very possible that women are intimidated by you. Also if you feel insecure (height) and socially awkward, then you will be exuding through non-verbal communication "don't come near me." Open up your body posture, smile, have positive beliefs, and be willing to make eye contact. You will see others warm up to you more.
Right, continuing on from my last point. Women have AA too, it's more of a form of preserving their esteem and not getting socially embarrassed. If they think that you are out of their league, then you have to show genuine interest in them, AND you have to relate to them/subtly show that they can hang in your world. If she says she's an artist, say you have artistic friends that you have awesome times with, etc... Go EASY on the negging, if at all, with girls who assume lower status than you.

You may think you are a friendly guy and giving out an approachable vibe, but just from your physical appearance it is quite possible that women have placed you in the 'unattainable' category in which other good looking men in the past have fallen into. Don't get me wrong, good looks work greatly to your advantage and you should improve them as much as possible, but you also need to let girls know, verbally or otherwise, that they can hang with you.

Now, I want you to grab a piece of paper, and write down on it in huge block letters: "TELL GIRLFRIEND WE'RE OVER" and tape it to your bedroom door. Or if you're really inclined then phone her up and tell her now. There is no reason to have that unnecessary stress and time wasted in your life when you could be single.

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