Correct my game. I am sort of seeing this girl for the past month. We've made out and a little bit more. I work at a club and saw a guy kiss her, 3 diff guys drag her acroos the bar by hand to buy her drinks or w/e and a bouncer told me that some guy had his hand on er ass when they left. I called her on it, and her reason was that we hadnt talked about what we were so i said i want to be exclusive which i guess is kind of stupid. plus i fucked a chick 2 days b4 that.

She pisses me off cause she takes so long to respond to my texts. I have oneitits so ive been talking to loads of girls to try and cure me but i actually really want her. The last text i sent her was on sunday saying "well i want to continue hanging out with you and if things go forward then so be it." she didnt respond.

We had loose plans to hang out this wed coming up but i figured if she texts or phones me i will say i didnt hear from her and i made other plans but i can do something on (certain day). I started talking to her best friend too but never once mentioning her.

Whats the best way that I should go about this to get control back?
Should I not msg her at all if she doesnt get a hold of me on wednesday?
Should I try to fuck her but no lovey mushy shit so she feels attached and i look like i dont care?

Appreciate the response

Don't act needy!

She is in control of you and she likes it that way, but it doesn't attract her. Imagine, she is in control of every other guy that wants her.. and that's probably a lot!.. Girls want guys they can't control, so.... you know what to do.. only by showing independant non needy behaviour to her, gives her the feeling she needs control back.. And if she can't get it, it'll make her even more attracted.. So keep doing what you are doing, keep kissing her sometimes, don't text her, the more you get her out of your system the better/ the more non needy you will behave towards her..

you said you're working in a bar right? take a night off and fool around in your own bar to party when she is there.. make sure you play with a lot of girls, like you always should be doing!.. girls want guys who have other girls! so have fun with her, but make sure you're not acting needy.. don't make a big deal about her not texting back without her you have a wonderful time also.. make sure from now on, you are that person that is responding late... or not ! take over her frame.. all this is confusing you, so it will confuse=attract her..

And next time, don't text her things like you want her in that early stage... that's not something you should be doing with a phone.. You make it easy for her to not respond by that.. if your feeling is real, tell her in person after a romantic night of sex during a nice romantic funny hike in the woods with your- or your best friends dog.. let her deal with those emotions in person..

good luck,

cheers

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I agree with fratss's post...

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

why are you gonna lose her?

BECAUSE YOU CARE ABOUT LOSING HER


Stop caring whether you have HER or some other girl. You're way too early in to care.


main advice: Read "all about destroying boyfriends" on this site. It will point out the kind of behavior to avoid

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thanks for the quality responses. Have I messed up to bad with all the sappy text shit, I'm not sure if she will message me tonight but I have a feeling she won't. Should I just forget about her until she calls or texts? I don't know how I can make her jealous because I don't want to initiate contact. I have this Friday off and could probably go to the club and I'm going to a hotel after with 6 girls but there is no way she would know, should I bring a camera and take lots of pictures of me with girls and post em on fb or is that to wierd. I don't usually like bringing a camera cause I think guys taking pictures is cheesy and needy.

Chalk it up as experienced gained and move on. Now you know what emotions are associated with feeling needy, and you can work on ways that will help you deal with them in a constructive fashion.

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so you really think I'm too far in the hole to recover. I know she really liked me up until that night because her friend was saying so and askig what kind of guy I was if we did happen to f close

indeed, it seems like she's too much into your head now. take a step back, try to focus on other people.

Lol I can focus on other ppl and sleep with other girls but I still don't want to never talk to her again just cause I said I liked her and want to be exclusive. What if I phone her in a week or should I see if she will get a hold of me first. I know she had feeling for me so I'm sure if I came off needy one day she will forget about it.basically I don't want to hear it can't be done cause I know it can and I don't care if that includes making out with girls in front of her, not calling her for two weeks or w/e.

Well i would say it could be done, but it kinda sounds like she's making you feel the way you would like her to feel about you. I might suggest waiting a full week 7 days before calling her, if you see her when you go out wait and see if she notices and and if she does, with out her knowning you know shes there, (like you see her friend and say hi but dont mention her) and she comes to say hi to you i'd say your in, and just to work your magic. If you dont see her/she doesnt make contact with you whether it be call/txt, in that 7 days give her a call, if she doesnt answer leave a message, and if she doesnt call back... FTB!!!

P.S. o yeah its your call in the bar, if she knows you're there and doesnt make contact with ,whether or not to contact with her. maybe just like pass her when getting 2 drinks one that you know she likes, cause if you can say you only have a minuet to say hi, and if its not ackard then meet up with her later after you drink your drink and give one away/ if you can tell she is still into you tell her the other drink is hers. (if it is ackward drink um both it will make you feel better

okay cool, i guess ill call her in a week, hopefully im not such a needy bitch by then. Due to the vast amount of clubs around her i think its highly unlikley that i will see her out soon but i hope that i can recover. So 7 days then. If anyone wants to add in something on how i can get her or what to do then plz do so. otherwise thanks for the responses.