Alright. I'm trying to figure this situation out.

I had a girl in one of my business classes, HB 9. As soon as she walked into class, she sat in front of me, and I just thought- "Oh god, this is going to be a fun semester. Another stuck up rich bitch who thinks shes hot shit. I'm going to torture her this semester..." So like for fun, I just start ranking on her, but she laughs at it. She's digging it! I've always been the "funny asshole", and I laid it onto her thick just to fuck with her, but she genuinely was a fun/ny girl. I had this kind of crush on her, only saw her outside of class 1-2 times, never more than a few minutes, but just general kidding around yadda yadda, get her laughing, a little kino, hell she even was grabbing My arm not the other way around.

So this semester, I didn't sign up for classes at that university, family finances kinda hit the fan, and I'm breaking my bank trying to help the cause. Well anyway, this means that my time seeing HB9 3x/week is up. We talk on facebook, and text every now and then, and she even came out to see my band play, and she loved it.

The more I talk to her, the more that she absolutely fits my mold of EXACTLY what I'm looking for in a woman. Its downright scary. I've been single for a couple years, and tell myself I'd only do a relationship under my own terms, well- This girl is IT.

So, everythings going great right? No. She hangs out with guys. Now, this doesn't bother me At All. The way I see it is, if you fuck a girl like you're sending her home to someone else, she'll have no reason to look to eat elsewhere. Plain and simple.

Those dude friends all AFC, all say how hot she is, and just like shower her with all these complements and all buddy buddy, Friend-zone to the highest degree. Its kind of funny actually. But everytime I ask her to hang out, shes always with these 3-4 dudes, hanging out, like a group of best friends that shes not having sex with.

I'm trying to establish something with this girl. Shes honestly everything I'm looking for in a woman, but I don't want to like get all AFC on her and just shower her with all this like "secret love bullshit". She loves my sense of humor, I always get her laughing, and I think shes turned on by my musical endeavours (I've got a couple contacts in Hollywood, and actually she got super jealous over a photo album of me and about 50-60 celebrities partying together). STILL, I can't get any alone time with her, to tell her how I really feel. I refuse to do it over FB or Text, but maybe thats the only way to truly get through to her??

In the mean time, I'm seeing this 18yr old PR girl, whos a super cutie, and a complete dork. She digs me for my geekier side, and shes a really cool laid back girl. I have fun being myself, and just chilling out. Not a girl I'd date, but a sweet girl that I'd love to have some fun with. I just don't see myself taking anyone but HB9 seriously. I hope its not just a stupid case of one-itis, but shit, I'm trying to figure this out! I REALLY WANT HB9. More than just a 1 night stand too.

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The best advice I can give you is that all the obstacles that are keeping you from having your hb9 exist entirely in your head. On some deep psychological level you don't think you deserve this hb9 and are coming up with justifications why you can't have her. She's right there, all you have to do is claim her. She's probably been waiting for you to make a move since you were back in that college class with her, but you've been too afraid to. If these guys "who are in the way" are just friends, then they probably will stay just friends forever. The most important thing is not to end up like them.

She originally liked you because you treated her normally and didn't focus entirely on her looks like her "guy friends" did. When you cracked jokes at her expense, you showed her that you were so confident that you weren't afraid that she might get mad and leave. None of her "guy friends" would ever say a bad word about her because they feel lucky to be in her presence and don't want to do anything to jeopardize that.

So basically my advice is make a move, but do it confidently (be the opposite of her "guy friends"). I know you're expecting some magic line or routine, but the truth is that you just need to work through your fear, take a risk and see what happens. You don't need the perfect line or some magic routine, you just need to do something. You can't get something out of life without first risking failure. The only guarantee I can give you is that, I guarantee you will regret it if you don't make a move on this girl before it's too late.