Hello all, looking for some advice! I don't normally pick up HBS on line and a few I been talking to come and go and Ive been fine with that. I guess that's the norm with the net! One big problem..I got really into this one HB and cant get her off my mind! We had been talking online and over txts for a good while I made quite few a suggestion of a phone call or even meeting up when we are both out! The whole dating from net could be difficult so set it up to meet when we are both out with our friends!

All this fell on def ears but she still continued to have a laugh with me over the net and txts. This carried on from summer right up to xmass and it really started to bother me. After xmass hols I made another attempt to just get her to ring me but it did not happen. After this we had a argument and I cant remember much of the stuff I said but I put it in a way that I am really tired in this online / txt relationship! After that comment she said she wanted to be left alone.

I was not too happy either so we did not talk at all for some time. Over time I came back and said sorry and over a few weeks I sent the odd txt and left some funny comments on her face book to show I was still prepared to talk again. She still continued to ignore me.

I could not take it any more and felt like a wuss so I decided to remove her from my face book and also to remove my comments on her page.

After doing that I thought she would contact me again..still has not.
Because I have been still making contact with no reply I guess she's made me out to be some internet stalker type person. This is so far from the truth its the main reason why I cant get her out of my mind.

Today I sent her a txt and mentioned and to sum it up I told her its stupid the way things have gone. I been trying to show you I am human not some lone internet stalker and now I am being made out to be one! Since its Valentines day I wished her a happy one. I felt I explained how I was feeling very well and expected a response....nothing!

I built up as much attraction and comfort possible and things were really good but she wouldn't move from the net and txts. Because we had been talking for so long it had gone beyond the point of using PUA. She would have noticed it straight away. I am really stuck now because this is a HB I had imagined spending some time with. Even though I had never met her its just something I felt. I cant just turn it off like a switch and at the same time I cant continue to try and gain a response from her because then its becoming stalker territory! I have removed her number from my phone but wrote it down because will never know when might have to use it again.

There's a lot of information up there and really appreciate the time spent to read over it. I am in a bad place right now and its effecting me everywhere. The go out and game as many HBs routine just wont work. I have been doing this since we stopped speaking. It has not helped at all!

I once mentioned I felt she was only seeking attention but then she strongly denied it. Do you think I have finally called her bluff? and now shes just avoiding me to save her from admitting? I cant figure it out. After this HB I am no longer going down the online route. Its way to easy to just drop it and vanish. How is it possible to get over this one guys??

Thank you for your time.

Fender.

wait wait wait....you got oneitis for a girl ONLINE!?!?!?

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I dont know what it its, I am not fully sure of what oneitis really is? I am just seriously confused with the above and trying to make sense of it all. I have been with my fair share of girls and have no problem droping them off when things are not so hot. Finding it difficult to drop this one.

Move on, you're wasting you own time

Are you joking, that doesn't prove you're uninterested. It just proves you're sooo interested you acting like a complete afc.
At least, that's one thing we agree on.

Sending her a text on Valentine's Day. How is she gonna translate that:-
Does anyone else see the irony of this?

You know what, if you go out with the attitude that you are already defeated, guess what, you'll leave like that. OK, it's hard, I'm not denying that but seriously, move on.

You're flogging a dead horse, and everything that you think you've done right is actually the complete opposite.

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Thanks man. You know have always kept my cool with HBs. I find it embarrassing even looking back at my first post. Yeah all afc with out a doubt! Totally new to the online game and was not prepared for the lack of response its not something I have experienced before so yeah guess its showed!

I took it as far as I could. Your all correct time for me to move on.

Online game is something I will avoid also, far to easy to pull the plug.
Field is where I belong no HB would pull a stunt like that.

Its gona be hard but number has now been binned! Thanks Guys.

Is there any chance it could be a man lime lighting as a chick.. just sating there are some strange people out there.. especially online

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Yeah haha that be funny alright! First txt she sent me, she pretend to be a gay dude to wind me up. Always neged her over it but although it could be possible! I doubt it.

You right some strange people out there!

Have an update... I read a thread on this about a guy who broke up with his GF and was kind of acting same way as me..being all afc and needy and so on. Anyway the advice given was to tell her sorry and that your having a strange time at the moment,heads all over the place and also to say that her wanting a break is cool and that I should also take a break.

I left her a message similar to this and after a few weeks of no response to my stupid afc messages she has finally responded to this one.

She says she didn't know what to say that's why shes been so quiet and that she has had a hell of a week herself. She finishes the message with, but hope your ok (my name) seriously..take it easy

Have not replied, I told her I also could do with a break..what should I do stay quiet for a few days?

What you make of this now having read the first post? thanks dudes

I think she assumes you are going to kill yourself. Ever try phoning her, it takes more confidence but it get things done.

Dude I think you need to learn to leave it,

I mean shes telling you to chill and once more your taking a break from an online relationship! I mean this is based on facebook, msn, myspace (whatever). In my opinion if you need to take a break from that its pretty much doomed! Also saying sorry in my opinion is pretty much AFC and even worse online. As for her not wanting to meet etc. The rule of this is 'be the prize' dont put that pussy on a pedestal (i heard that somewhere, fogot where sorry). Fair play give her compliments call her cute names, blah blah blah but only she has EARNED IT and also PUNISH HER as in show IOD's to her when she ignores you be like dont matter ive been out with whoever and we had a great time doing whatever!

Hope that helps dude I didnt want to seem like a big pessimist so I helped in the end bby ranting a bit of my mind!

Spark.