Hi,

so, i went out 3 days back and just watched the people to get the feel of it. I wanted to talk, but i made the mistake of going in a dance bar, where the music was too loud, so i just watched.

Today, i went downtown, and i wanted to try and say hello to random girls, to eliminate the fear; but i didnt succeed. the fear was there, and it beat me.

Tonight, i went out with one goal: Simply say hello to a few random girls, no more. At first, the fear was there, and i couldnt say hello. But at some point, i just started running, and saying hello to random people, then girls. very quickly, i felt confortable, so i stopped running and kept saying hello. quickly, i began using variations, even stupid accents, etc. i also begun talking with some girls. I became super confident, quickly. I even managed to do some basic sargin, which was not planned. one girl even got really interrested, but i cut it early, my goal was achieved for now. The science was proven,


well, for newbies: the pros are right, its not that hard. simply ignore the fear and beat it. one you go through it, your balls start to do the talking, and then you are getting alpha

now is the time to begin serious sargingl the ice has been broken, and im still alive and kicking...

No doubt, the fear is the first thing that needs to be overcome. However, I also notice that I tend to try to find the best scenarios where it is the easiest. This is bad. So not only do you need to banish the fear first, but you have to also challenge yourself in order to continue the growth. From what you said (breaking off the possible continuation with that one girl) you seem to have already broken the bounds of both IMO.

Hi Ginder,

i guess what helped me the most was in the book "the game", when mystery tells neil strauss and other pupils to consider it like a video game. The outcome does not matter, just go out and try. do the first level, then try the next, and so on. NOTHING that happens out there should even touch your ego.

at first, you should even try to get rejected on purpose by doing stupid things, just to get used to it and build confidence. I told myself: for the first weeks, i dont care if i really handle girls well, its not my goal. my only goal is to build up confidence and skill. and this sometimes means cutting off interactions after the few first seconds, to go try other sets.

hope this helps

Well done man, see it's not as bad as you think! I see like me you now find it quite addictive! Why did you stop when things were going great? Next time just go with it and see where it goes, that way you develope a benchmark, and then you know where to improve your game.

Well done on the whole though!

Thanks JackOfNoTrades,

i agree i should have kept going and i had a small regret, but i want to progress methodically; patience is my virtue. Conquer the fears first, and build a solid ground, and then build on it.I feel if i go too fast, i may take bad habits that will become hard to break. I agree practice makes perfect, but in my case i will be there soon enough, im a fast learner

i will keep posting on the evolutions of things,


thanks for the support!

Note: based on my experience last night, i devised a new technique for newbies to conquer their fears of the initial contact. you can read the post here. please give comments as if it helps some people.
new-technique-for-newbies-to-conquer-ap ... t9826.html

Nice work buddy!

Sounds like you're over the first hurdle, just keep at it man. Nobody ever got worse by practicing, they only got better.

Peace and good luck!

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Nice work buddy!

Sounds like you're over the first hurdle, just keep at it man. Nobody ever got worse by practicing, they only got better.

Peace and good luck!

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this brang a tear to my eye
i love to hear people getting better...overcoming.