First of all I am brand new to this forum, this will be my first post and hopefully many more to come, this seems like an awesome forum. Anyways Ill give you some background info: I had a whole page but more people could help me if I make it short and sweet =).

Met girl at work, she liked me I didnt know, I was drunk and told her I liked her, After that I became clingy(Strike 1) she cut it off 2 weeks later, Then we would get into fights usually me at her for doing something dumb she tries to hook up with other guys, This all happend a year ago, after the fights we see eachother sometimes and text once in a while, I would tell her about my problems and she would bitch to me FRIEND ZONE (strike 2) she always said we should hang out but never fallows through, Yesterday she texts me out of the blue I K.I.S.S. instead of writing her a novel.

Girl: hey whats up, ever heard of blah blah
Me: Nope, what is it?
Girl: Oh its blah blah blah blah blah
Me: Ok
Girl: We really need to hang out this week, I miss you
Me: tight, but when?
Girl: hmm what are you doing tomorrow?
Me: Im busy at 5, wanna go before?
Girl: Sounds great
Me: Ill pick you up at 2. (No more texts after that)

Heres what I need to know......

How should I act dress talk walk everything, is there a guide to dates with ex gf's or something =)? And also how can I test her to see if she just wants a free lunch (not paying for it either way) or if she wants to give me another shot.

Also note when we text sometimes it gets flirty. I had a girl stalking me and I told her "if she talks to me im gonna tell her I am gettin sex from you every night, extra hard" she replies with "go ahead but if I have a stalker Im gonna say im gettin some from you"

Hey Carson,

these things are complicated for outsiders to judge, but I'll give it a try.

Try to make the meeting about her "missing you" like she said... Keep an alpha frame. especially exes, will try to manoever you back into the AFC boyfriend zone. DO NOT GO THERE.

Keep your distance, and let the enemy wear itself down on your defense line (let her do the talking). Make sure you keep smiling, but don't get to cosey with her... Don't ask questions, but make statements for her to comment on... keep dominant bodylanguage in play... etc. etc. Don't freak out when she tell's you you've changed or behave strangely... that's exactly what you want: confusion.

Within short time she will probably be eating out of your hand... That's when you can find out what she wants: but stay subtle! To be honest, I think it's not relevant what she wants, but what you want! Try to formulate a goal first: do you really want this girl back, just have sex, or do you want to establish a friendly relationship. All three are possible, if you can cease control of the upcoming situation.

Good luck! Let me know how it works out for you. You can find plenty of Alpha Male stuff on the forum...

Good sailing skipper!

Buccaneer