I feel as if I would probabley have great success in my game if I just got out more and forced myself out of this little comfort bubble I'm living in. I think I need a slap across the face regarding a few fears I have that are keeping me an AFC:
1- I have a huge fear of what others around are going to think if I start gaming a girl. DA in his book describes a simple way to practice C&F in a day to day situation by whilst at the checkout ask the girl- How much of a share do they give you of what's in the till? Twice I've chickened out even doing this as I keep thinking her and others in the que are going to think I'm some kind of a weirdo.

2- I think that acting alpha or using C&F is going to get my blown off as some superior jerk that's too cool.

3- I instantly feel like I don't stand a chance if there's already a guy or guys in the set that seem fairly cool and are already making the girl(s) laugh / enjoy themselves.

4- Getting caught out running game on a girl or worse being over heard by a previous set using a similar opener or DHV story.

I've got sphinx of imagination, have written goals and even have sayings I quote to myself such as this is my reality, you are just guests within; I just can't seem to connect my subconscious and conscious mind to believe it.

You have what a big case of AA. The only slap in the face I can give you over the computer is you sound like a complete pussy to rest of us who were once in your shoes. You must approach strangers full fucking time. If you have to start on a telephone like Juggler than do that. Than work your way up to approaching strangers and asking for directions, or the time, or whatever. Reading up on the game but not going out and doing it is like reading how to become a great golfer. If you don't get on the course or at least the drivng range and hit hundreds of balls, how the hell are you going to get any better? I would recommend a crash course of pure opening. It will feel akward and stupid at first. After you have opened about 200 sets, you will not be bothered by the AA nearly as much. Than you can work on attraction or kino or whatever your next sticking point is. Basically if you can't grow a set of testicles and get past the very first sticking point (approaching), then just log off now and have a pathetic life of wishing you could talk to the HBs you will see for the rest of your life. While you stand on the sidelines, us PUAs will be making FRs happen right in front of you.

i don't remember where i read this, if it was on a book or on this website but... neil strauss once said: "the disapointment you feel about yourself when you go back home after being too scared to open a set is way harder to take than actually messing up an opener"

that is 100% true. i've started to sarge since few weeks and i still have approach anxiety. when i'm finding excuses not to open a sweet set, when i leave i feel very bad about myself. and when i open and it doesnt go as i wanted to, i immediately think of what i should have done better, not what the people around may have thought about me.

take a day off, go to a social place you don't know and won't go again, and kick your own ass to open as many sets as possible. you just have to start.

Hey, Dynamo feels you there man.
I know Sub-zero has been a lil harsh with you but damn he's right all right.
The thing is, that unfortunally for you and me, there is not other way around it. Trust me, I tried 'em all. You see, at the very beginnings of times (just a couple of full moons ago really) I used to have that same problem. I couldn't see it as something i could do, so I made it into something that I was forced to do.
If you drive, try starting by giving your car keys to a friend while entering a club, with the understanding that he wont give 'em back to you for the whole week unless you don't open at least a couple of sets that night.
If your friend drives and takes you to the club, then agree that he wouldn't give you a lift back unless you do such and such. (If you leave in London and you ain't a millionaire that is gonna hurt).
If you go to the club and have to comeback from it in the middle of the night by public transport, then..., well, then that's already bad as it is, I guess getting off your butt and take it to the club with intentions to sarge is a good enough begging. Wellcome to the Game. But, as Sub-Zero would put, "Now stop being a pussy and get on with it!".

Dynamo

sounds like you are just kinda being a pussy not through any conscious effort more through how you are. If you start worrying how people thing and if some "too cool" guy blows you out, you will fail, everytime. I would say stop trying to be a pickup artist instead focus on being a man, once you figure out who you are the you can get other people involved but at hte moment it seems like you see yourself as a secondary citizen with a major wannabe fonze complex.

Long story short don't admire cool guys just be one ( I can't be assed to do your homework for you but look it up become cool then start), after that you should be a tad out of your comfort zone, which is great.

Would you rather be comfortable with everything predictable and controllable or inject a wee bit of drama, get fucked over, laugh, cry and fuck, tis better than being comfortable. You were comfortable in the womb, what if you stayed there?

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