ok so there is this one chick ive sarged before like we went out on a date and everything we've kissed a couple times nothing special...when id drop her off her from school or w/e id get a kiss w/e....one day after i dropped her off home and i didnt get a kiss or anything she just said "thanks bye" and i got mixed reactions from her that day and stuff....so i asked my other friend who is friends wid her to find stuff out for me like ask her wat she thought bout me and stuff...my friend said that she still dosnt know and taht she has no time or w/e for a boyfriend (she acts and sings and is recording a demo cd) and my friend said taht shes kinda into some other guy after i found out she was into me a couple weeks earlier....so i was like f this and i started to ignore her a lil bit like i wouldnt go outa my way to talk to her (wouldnt walk her to her classes, wouldnt drop her off anymore) but id still talk to her a lil bit....

so today i was being cocky funny with her and id like turn my back to her and ignore her and she'd like follow me if i walked away and talked to someone else or like grab my arm and try to talk to me and stuff...and since my other friend lives in the same neighbor hood as her when she asked for a ride in general im like nah i cant but he can take you home...so later shes like "y couldnt u take me home?" im like ill take u home another day like she wanted me to take her home for sum reason but i said nah....wat u guys think about this? u think shes trying to get back into things with me or just tryin to play me again or w/e???

It looks like she misses the attention you use to give her. probably she tried to revive what was there. Now that she doesn't have your attention, she wants u to acknowledge her presents. or maybe shes being a tease. look up "beautiful teases" on dating to relating by mr. l rx pretty good stuff.

how do i find that?

I'd say learn from this. Who cares what she thinks about you? Does it really matter? I would hope that you would like for things to go your way here, so worry about yourself. Keep things moving in the direction you want.

From what I read, seems like you dropped your game and she dropped her interest in you. You later recovered. What's the lesson here? Looks to me like you're gonna have to keep the game up with this lady. It's not time to relax.

Maybe next time you take her out, capitalize on her new level of interest. Get that game going back up to level ten. Makes sures she's really feeling it when you drop her off.

Then you make the "wow, it's been great, see you around" closer instead of her.

Good luck.