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being calm and relaxed or
being high energy and a little cocky
Being "calm" is always good no matter what you do.
Being "relaxed" is always good too.
Being "high energy" is a good thing too. But, if the set is not high energy,
be have a little bit less energy than they do when you enter. Once you are
in the set, it is time to bring that energy level up.
Be "cocky and funny", not just cocky. Being too cocky means that you are
trying too hard to impress, or you just come off as a jerk/try hard.
Not "alpha"... but are considered a jerk/try hard.
Being "cocky and funny", gives you the advantage of being just a little bit
too cocky, but it disarms the set when you are funny too. Giving them the
impression that you are confident with yourself, and that you are a funny
person too.
There is a real thin line between being too cocky and not funny enough.
Trial and error are the only way to notice when you are being too cocky.
Good luck in finding that "thin line." It was hard for me to do when I first
started. But, not anymore. It takes some time for some people, but it
also does not take a lot of time for some.
Sounds to me like you have read "Double Your Dating." If you have, I
urge you to re-read the C&F section before going about your way.
Also, do a search for: Cocky and Funny Explained
This will give you even more information about how to successfully pull
this way of gaming off.