Heya guys, I'm in a very fucked up situation right now, and it's not because of any HB whatsoever.
My dad has recently told me and my sister that he had a relationship with another woman for 3 years. My mother already knew this for a while but they didn't tell us because my sister was in Australia when my mother found out.
But this situation of course is fucked up for our family as a whole, but for me in particular aswell. I´m a lot like my father communicationwise, we both act in the same way while around people and we both don´t really show our emotions to the outside world that easily.
This is really fucking me up... I lost my will to sarge because of it. I don´t want to hurt anybody the way my father did. And since we´re so much alike it´s bound to happen. Those are thoughts that flash through my mind all the time.
How can I show my subconscious self to stop making that connection??
Help and comments very much appreciated!
Grtz, by Feist

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Girl: 'Aww you're playing me'
Feist: 'If I got a nickle for everytime I heard that...'

I think your way of life and the way of viewing yourself has to change somewhat. You have to try and break the mental link between the hurt of your mother or father or what else is going on, and what it is your doing....or would like to be doing. If that makes any sense?

I think meditation could really help. You need to look at yourself as an individual.

Best of luck man

I have similar experience and mental thoughts through most of my life to date!
The only thing I have come to try to deal with these is :
do not take a side in any emotional way
try to stay in the moment at all times and be open to any new openings that appear.
I say this cos most of my life I have been on one side or other and not looked up and missed soo many oppotunaties to meet people. People who could have taken my life into a better place where those mental thoughts and fears could not exist, instead I was so concerned of what harm I could do I missed the healing.

YOU are an INDIVIDUAL and need to take responsibility for YOURSELf not your mother or father, the way you feel that you are alike your father is only that. A feeling or thought can be changed if you want, do not beat yourself up over it.. if you fear you cant do it alone . GET HELP.

I missed a HB10 (imo) relationship cos i was to busy worrying about shit like that..

Good luck J1f