Ok so last night I picked up this girl....we wer up stairs in the bar and for some reason she wanted to go dance down stairs so w.e I took her to the main floor and we danced....she was all over me throwing out IOI's all over and at one point her friend told me she was into me and that I should "hook" up with her....well I told her lets go back up stairs and I will grab my jacket....I lead her up and then out of no nowhere! she lets go of my hand and goes over to some other dude!??? so I just kinda ignore it and ask her friend who this dude is and apparently they are "seeing" each other.

I walked over looked at her asked and she kinda smiled at me but said no she was not coming....so I just walked away like what ever.

Now what could I have dont diffrent in this situation? Also I will see this girl again because her friends want to party again and its their roommate....so how should I act or what should I say to this girl? I still kinda want to hook up with her.

I'm still a noobie here, but this is what I think. I don't know if you like the girl or not but you said you didn't care, but if you do care enough you should confront her and ask her like "what's up with that shit"? Or maybe shes just a huge slut...

Well I will deff say somthing to her....I told her roomate that she never never stands a chance with me now and that it was un cool just so the point gets across and I will deff see her again so Im planing on saying somthing....I wont be a dick Il just let her know I was not happy.

I think she made it pretty clear the situation, trying to have a final say could DLV. It seems like your communication has been with her roomate. Have you tried gaming her?

The most positive reaction is to use that energy and go out meeting loads more HBs. Get seen that you're out having fun with other girls and it doesn't bother you atall.

It seems like you did a real good job attracting her in the first place though but she clearly had unfinished business with an ex?

Im not sure who this guy was but they must have history because he didnt look happy and she went right to him! I didnt say any thing to her other then are you coming with us? and when she said no I just said whatever and my budy and her roomates bounced.....I didnt hook up with her roomates because then that would eliminate my chance with her and I was not into her roomates like that.

Il let her come to me forsure but when she does what should I say, do ect....?

Sounds like she is in a relationship but was interested in hooking up with you on the side. She saw the guy she's going out with, so she was obligated to go over to him because he probably doesn't know she sleeps around or if they are in an open relationship she didn't want to make it so obvious in front of him.

I'd suggest you don't bitch about it because if you do that's all it'll sound like to her, bitching. She has a guy and she doesn't need you but she wanted some fun on the side so if the opportunity occurs again and you get her turned on again she might go for it, but not if you're going to make it a big hassle. You need to understand that you're probably just a sex toy to her and if you make it complicated at all she won't be interested.

Ask yourself whether it's worth the hassle and the risk of the other guy getting pissed off and kicking your ass.

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Good call....so I guess I will just act normal, flirt a little, but let her know im now easy. Im not mad at all in fact I would do that same thing if i was in her shoes.

What should I say to her? or do if i see her next just act friendly? what?

Well you gamed her in the first place and it seemed to work for you, so just do what you did before [assuming it was natural and not canned]. As far as acting friendly goes, are you trying to be a friend? Obviously don't be a jerk [unless overly C&F is your personality], but if you are trying to be more than a friend for a night or longer, I would continue to build attraction and keep escalating kino. You said you got her to dance and she suggested you guys hookup, so there should be no problems here... and by you advancing to take her home last time, you aleady showed interest, so show you can also walk away and you have options.

Bingo. Most guys tend to back off once they find out the girl has another guy, but if she was interested before you knew, she'll still be interested. Just keep building attraction and seducing her while keeping her comfortable and you'll do good, don't stop building sexual tension because that is what worked for you before.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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