Alright so the girl Im dating and her ex wer at the same bar and one of her good friends was making out with him....well she lost it made a scene....then I text her to see what shes up to and she say's "crying" so I call her and she tells me about all this, then tells me that now he hates her and will never talk to her agian ect ect ect....I am thinking why do you care if you say your over him?

We get in an argument about it and she says I dont understand and hangs up. I then text her saying that no i dont undersand but Im trying to because I care about her....I then tell her that her ex is an ass hole, and Im tired of talking about him....tell her that they can figer ther shit out on ther own.

Now we have not talked but my problem is I really really like this girl! I mean when the ex is out of the pic we get along amazing! but he always seems to come up even though she tell me she has no feeling for him....wtf do I do now????

She likes him still. Its like she has one-itis.

Also she views you as a friend from what you told me. When something really bad socially happens to you, do you talk to a GF or just a Friend?? I know its kind of different, but still...

All you can do now is sit tight. Don't call or text her again until she contacts you first. Essentially, you are acting like you are mad that she got pissed at you for trying to help. If you see her around town still just give normal hellos etc, but she will come back to you if she likes you.

Well, in myopinion, I think it because you chose to care about the situation, is why she kinda talks to you. she probably see you as a therapist lol... but what you need to do, is show her that have fun you guys can have without her thinking about her ex


If she continues to do that, tell her and stop hanging with her. Its obviously effecting you in a negative way, so either she has to grow up or you just go with a different girl...

Well I know she we are more then friends because we have has sex, and she has told me she really likes me and she thinks im amazing....but then she still talks about her ex.....so I told her to just deal with it and that im over it....over all the drama.

We have not talked in 24hrs now so im just gunna sit tight and not worry about it....shes on my mind but im gunna just put it to the back of my mind until she msg me or calls me.

Now when she does contact me what do you guys think i should say? i was thinking im just going to tell her she need to deal with her emotional shit and then come talk to me.

The only thing is I really like her and dont want to loose her over somting so dumb....i mean we are a great match for each other!

My advice is to get the hell away from her. I've been caught out with girls who can't get over their ex's.

I got screwed over bad the first time. I met this girl a few months after she broke up with her ex and she was "over him". (Her ex beat her up and she put charges against him.) We had a really good relationship, but she missed her ex and started talking to him again.

After 3 months of going out with her she acts real weird this one night and doesn't want to hang with me. I drove to her ex's house and she there she was, fucking him. Now they are living together.

My advice is to definately wait for her to contact you. I know it will be hard as hell. I completely stopped talking to my ex after she cheated on me, but she started to miss me and contact me again.

It's hell funny, now I take her to the movies and drink with her till 3am in the morning - while her boyfriend is at home. She misses me like hell. I show her what fun is all about and she bitches about how her boyfriend never does anything cool. She told me that breaking up with me was the worst mistake she had ever made.

Just act as though you don't give a shit about her. No actually just don't give a shit about her and she'll probably come running back to you.

man its gonna be hard for you but you need to get away from her because if her X is single down the road and he trys to go back to her it sounds like shell go for it or atleast cheat on you, ive delt with a girl like this before its not fun it really fucks with you. just let her know that you know she still likes him and if she wants to be with you she should stop taking it out on you when you try to talk to her.

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Ok so I talked to her today and she told me she doesnt want me out of her life ect ect....then I told her im over all the drama and Im going to end it...she then said she was upset that I would treat her like this and that Im just going to forget about her so she will have to try to get over me....then I told her do w.e she wants, that I like her but Im not puting up with this and if she needs to not talk to me then what ever.

Now Im not sure whats going on....I know she is super upset! and she told me she likes me but I think I need to just stand my ground? Im actually worried I might loose her over this???? But mabey not?

I have never had to deal with a girl like this....I really like her alot! but she is not ready for a serious relationship because she just got out of one like 3 months ago with her ex....but should I wait and then try to start somthing up down the road? like a month or so from now? Its clear we both like each other but its just horrible timing!

the best thing to do is just stand your ground because u want her to know that you like her put your not gonna put up with this shit that shouldnt even be happening. you did a good job on what you said so far.

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That is if you can keep your feealings out of it. You seem like you were able to do that (from little what I know of your post). awms seems to like like the girl and that can be tough.

Yes I like her alot! I was a bit of a dick in the way I spoke to her but I did send her a text just saying listen I understand its hard for you just geting out of a long term deal with your ex and I like you but right now what we have prob wont work out for eather of us ect ect....the balls in her court now I guess....It just sucks because I care about her but hey thats life.

It's really bad if your girlfriend talks about her ex and extremely bad if she gets emotional about him. It means she is not over him.

Awms, what your doing is for your own good. Get the ex out of the picture before you take things further with this girl. Put the hard word down. Don't let her have you until she is over her ex.

This is currently happening to me for the second time [sigh]. I met an absolutely awesome girl who is only three weeks out of a relationship. We talked like crazy for a week and met up and slept together. A week later she was reluctant to talk to me. She needs time to get over shit. In the meantime i'm keeping in contact with her.

Well she msg me say she couldnt talk to me any more because its to hard....so I msg back saying ok....If that how you feel I understand.

She then wrote me a massive msg saying that not what she wants and then we talked for a while! and she wants me to come stay at her place this weekend lol I told her we will see but that we are just friends for now until she deals with her problems.

Man up and act like a PUA! YOU BEIN DA BITCH in this relationship right now. I'm ashamed to say were in the same game.

You got her right? Using your skills, right?
Then what makes you think the next big adventure isn't
just around the bend. Shut down your AFC thinking and
start thinking like a PUA. Tell her: "I was gaming girls when I met you, you're not the only girl I could have, but I thought we had something. So what's it gonna be? Shit test her! Get back in her head like you were when you met her ass. BE A PICKUP ARTIST. That's why you got in the game right? You're still in it. Always were and always will be. I think you just forgot. You also didn't establish the intended relationship upfront before you got invested. I'm sure shes hot, but so what? Lots of beautiful women in the grocery store, church, jogging by, gas station, club, friends sister or whatever are just as cute too. Let dat bitch know you got options. Be willing to walk away when you do.

Hope that helps.