There's a girl (a little intense emotionally), that I took out on a date before whom I met through a friend. Attractive enough (not sure the rating scale, someone link the scale for me please?). We agreed to see each other again, haven't really since then (2 weeks), I see her at parties, but she always gets a little drunker than I do and I think she's playing me a little.

I've taken a step back and waited to DHV. Now she sent me this message on facebook:

so when are we hanging out?

I responded, what do you think, is she interested? I don't wanna get into friend zone with anymore people. Thanks!

always assume it's on.

her:"so when are we hanging out?"
you:"i'm going to x with a few people on xday, pull in"

So, am I asking her to join me and a couple friends, or me just with her.

you, her, and a couple friends (don't go gang bangin' now!)
Of course, you could always find something to do on your own and tell her to come along, thus a «one on 1»

I like tellin' girls that I'm going downtown to look for a movie/painting/cd or whatever and that they should keep me company.
We bounce from store to store, poking around, let them know me and vice versa and soon it becomes time for lunch or supper. Hey, I know this great filipino/indian/whatever place we should go to for lunch/supper.

Just discover what's around where you live or in the downtown area so that you can have a plan. You can then invite them to your place to listen to the cd or watch the movie or whatever.

Sometimes - In situations like these I like to just chance it and play it straight-
Ask!
Just ask her;
How do you feel about us?
And I usually find they give a straight answer back and 90% of the time they will tell you it's on.
Then its just happy gaming!
Hi everyone btw!!

Ahhhh!!!

Dude, she is totally down. Don't wait for her to take the lead here, put your balls on the line and tell her she is coming over.

HB: So when are we hanging out.
YOU: I'm free tomorrow, you should come over for a cuddle date/movie/make you dinner.

This is so on man. Take the lead and go for it!

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take control and you tell her whats going down, for her to play u she has to be in control so dont let her be.

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take control and you tell her whats going down, for her to play u she has to be in control so dont let her be.

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Take her to a party yourself if you don't feel comfortable in a different SPAM yet. Just text/call and say "hey, there's this party going on next [whenever], and me and a few friends are gonna hit it up, you should come with". Girls are incredibly comfortable with the people they walk in with at parties. You can even bring her, then go off on your own to chat up other HB's. This displays higher value and 9 times out of 10, you'll spark a little jealousy and really start to see the IOI's from her. Also keep some drinks back at your place. If you can find an excuse as to why the party isn't worth staying, you can then say "this is party is a little lame, I've got some [insert drink here] back at my place, you want to just back there?". Now of course this only works if there is an actual feeling of boredom at the party, or else you just come off as trying too hard to get her back to your place.

nice advices

i think that she is quite interested in you though i can`t say 100%.I Believe that you should arrange to meet her only you and her cause 1st your friends might not be very helpful and 2nd she asked you out,just you not your friends.Good Luck anyways.XD

Thanks for all the stuff guys this is really great, I ended up making a date with her later, took around town for dinner and stuff, drove around, built up kino etc. The really great thing was, before I was never able to do a successful kiss close, then I just did some NLP (you know raising your hand to increase that good feeling), then I kissed her, for a couple mins.

The night turned out well (a couple slip-ups here and there), and I closed off the night (no sex though w/e). The weird thing though, later I got a message saying LJBF that she didn't feel "the sparks" weird, I kinda didn't feel it so much either I guess.

I've moved on from this one, but it was a good experience, thanks again for the advice.