Long story => short.

Met this girl at work( I'm partime student there). I asked for no., she gave me and we txted everyday, like 4,5 txts per day. But after the 1st date, suddenly the txt answers slowed down, often returned after 1 or 2 days.

Thinking she lost interest in me, I quit txting, and only neg/tease her when we had occasion to talk while working.

Yesterday I saw her outsided and she was so cute. So I decided to continue on this girl. I txted her asking something about work, but no answer until now.

So my question is: When the girl's answer slow down, is it a VERY BAD sign?

Come think of it, with another girls too, I was always the one who started conversation. Is it normal to always call/txt the girl first?

PS: I have confident in my looking, and this girl should be below my level (of looking).

It seems to me like you're chasing her, not the otherway around like it should be. Make yourself the prize. Stop texting her. Be absolutely fucking charming to everyone. Except her. Don't pay attention to her. Freeze her out. Make her see what she's missing, but don't rub it in her face. Run routines on other people, be confident, be alpha. She will notice, and maybe she'll take action.

Hey, man. Alright so here's the thing. Text messages shouldn't be used for
straight up conversations. They should only be used to check up on the
girl or send a little cute joke and then moved to a phone call.

Here's what you need to do.

First off, if you're going to text her, make sure that you're making the text
ENJOYABLE. The thing about work...is a bad choice. She goes to work all
the time. She looks forward to LEAVING work, so she doesn't want to think
about it more than she has to. Instead, send a message like:

PUA: Hey, what do you call a fish with no eyes?
HB: umm...idk?? ...
PUA: a ffffssssshhhh!!!

or

PUA: What do you call a cow with no legs?
HB: idk, what?
PUA: GROUND BEEF!


Alright, now those are really corny jokes but it's field tested and works like
a CHARM. From here, you need to move the conversation to the phone.
If you're nervouse to talk to her on the phone, you have to get over that
dude. How are you supposed to have a face-to-face conversation with her
if you can't talk to her on the phone, ya know? So after one of those jokes
you need to give value... for example:

PUA: omg, the most EMBARESSING thing happened to me today!! hahaha
i'll call you in 15 minutes im in the middle of something :]
HB: hahaha okay!

Call withing in 30-45 minutes.

PUA: Hey you!! I haven't seen you for a little while, I miss you sooo much!!
(exaggerated voice here to show you're being playful)
But you totally miss me more, don't you?
(again, playful)

HB: hahahaha oh of course!


(This is Mehow's theory of microloops. you have to GIVE value before you
can receive it. first you tell her you missed her [be playful, not creepy] then
she'll return the value you gave)

PUA: Alright so I can't believe im about to tell you this...but I thought you'd
get a kick out of it. You gotta SWEAR not to tell anyone! Can i trust you?

(she'll qualify herself a little here)

HB: YES! I really wanna know!

PUA: okay, i can only talk for a second, one of my friends is coming over
to cook me dinner, but get this! ...
(just say a quirky funny story here that will get her to laugh)


She'll laugh and then you need to end it:

PUA: hahaha how did i know you were gonna laugh?! Man i am GOOD!
Alright but listen i gotta get outta here, i'll call you a bit later.

HB: OKAY BYE!

PUA: byeeeeee

Hang up, and don't text her or call her until she instigates it.



Now im not trying to tell you what to say, but that's just an example. You
need go GIVE VALUE or else she won't be attracted to you.

I hope this helps man!!

omg thanks sabro and .EnVy. so much for the help

@sabro: Yes I freezed her, completely ignored. But I guessed the part "fucking charming to everyone" I didnt do well enough, so I didn't regain any attraction. I think the main reason of my failure(s) is that I made my self a so-easy-to-get prize…

@.EnVy.: yeah you are right man. I read the messages again and found out that ALL of them are so fucking boring . And annoying.
and your jokes are funny haha. I couldn’t help laughing. So bad they wont work in our language
OK I think I totally messed up with this girl. I will try your Mehow’s theory on the next girl. Just use this girl as a target to practice negging and teasing. It is fun though.
Thank you 2 again for the help^^

Oh! I didnt know you spoke a different language hahaha.
Well you're welcome buddy. Glad I could help out.

Just one more thing. No disrespect to the other poster, but ignoring her
won't work too well. ignoring her like that is just showing passive disintrest
and she won't notice it. she's not going to look at you one day and say
"omg, why isn't he paying attention to me?"

A girl like HER needs to be PLOWED with value and emotional excitement.
just keep that in mind, and you're all set to go.

Good luck buddy

I absolutely agree with that.

One thing that I did notice was how the txts slowed right after the first date. You didn't tell us how the date went.
I agree with EnVy on how you shouldn't have been the chaser, but I'm still interested in what the final straw was.

The date was bad I took her to the restaurant for dinner, and then to cinema to see a movie. I paid (yes yes I know. AFC. Next girl will be different).
It was a huge turn off when I asked after that: “where do you want to go next?” and she answered “anywhere, depend on you. But remember tomorrow I have work.”:? I could tell she wasn’t on the mood.
I did a little cf & neg & kino though.
Guess I fucked up during the date.

Your first problem is that you took her on the VERY cliché dinner and a
movie routine...that's so played out, and no girl will feel that you're
different. The thing you need to do, is make it ENJOYABLE. Always make
sure she's laughing and having fun.

I SWEAR to you, the other day, I took a girl to a grocery store, and we
bought some cereal and watched spongebob as a date...Dude, she LOVED
that day. She kept telling me how much fun she had and how she wanted
to do it again. You need to have a GOOD time.

Take her to the mall instead! Tell her that you need to get a couple t-shirts
and you need a girl's opinion on some of the stuff you might buy. Then
don't ASK her, you need to TELL her "meet me at Hollister, at 4 o clock
and we'll see what happens from there."

BE DOMINANT.


Then you can take her to bath and body works and spray some perfume
on her as a joke, and wipe a little lotion on her face to tease her (those
are all cocky and funny routines, btw). That's really it.

Now, one more thing...

Well it's not BAD to pay...That seems so taboo in the community, doesn't it?
But if you make the girl pay, you might seem like a cheapskate. But also if
YOU pay, you might seem like you're trying to buy her affection. So it's really
a double-edged sword.

Here's what I do. If we go to eat, I say: "I'll tell you what, I'll pay for this,
but you gotta pay for the ice cream afterwards "
NO GIRL is going to say "no, you pay for both." When you do that, you're
not paying for everything, she's paying too. It's perfect.

OR, you can go to starbucks, and tell her: "Hey, you get this one, and
i'll get the movie tickets later "

And make sure you smile and keep her having a good time. Kino escalation
is VERY important during the Day 2, but it can't be awkward. you need to
GRADUALLY escalate to the kiss BEFORE the date is over.


All in all, it's not hard to have a good day two. If I made a girl have fun
at a grocery store while i shopped for dehydrated bran flakes, and watching
kids cartoons, i'm POSITIVE you can make her have a good time as well.

Dr.Paul (from David Deangelo Deep inner game) talked about how women are attracted to men who have a good boundary system.
Basically women want strong and complete men who have likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, ideas, and plans. When you're on a date make sure that you have an opinion about things, don't just go along with whatever she says. She doesn't want that! She wants an individual, not a yes-man who can be c/f and neg. Be able to talk openly about things that are important to you, lead the conversation, expand the conversation into broad topics that interest you. Take control of the date. Also NEVER ask a woman "what do you want to do" or "Whats a good time and day for you". It's your responsibility to lead, so pick a place and set a day. If she doesn't like that place, can't make that day, pick another place and time that's good for you. But do it on your terms or not at all.