No , this aint gonna be one of those One-itis rants , no i actually want to get rid of a gril.

Ok , here is the situation, me and 2 college buddies (sam and steve to be quick) rent this place near campus. Last weeks were xmass holidays, and we each went home, see the family etc.

Yesterday Sam brought his 2year Gf along , to show her college and to introduce her to us. She is stunning , rly HB9 material. We all descided to go for a drink , just a pub nothing fancy. We all had a great time.
When i got home steve , took me aside and said " dude , u were totally playing her " all frownfaced. But honestly i wasnt, i destictly remeber thinking dont pull anything with her, she is sams girl etc. i shrugged it off and went to bed.

This morning after my daily run, i return home to find HB9 lying butt-naked on my bed. All experience beeing a PUA went right out of my head and all i could come up with was
Me :" hey ... uh i think u are in the wrong room ?" (i know totally rediculous, lost it there)

HB9 : No, this is definately the right room, followed by one of those sly winks. ( at this point i am thinking , haha, really funnny ... and start looking for hidden camera's)

Me : death silence ( again definately not the best thing to do )

HB9: we had such fun last night , i tought u liked me ? i just ...

Me :(cut her off) look u are sams girl, this just cant happen. i am gonna take a shower now, by the time i am out i would like u to be out of my room and put something on ffs. (not rly angry , more annoyed not rly knowing how to respond)

I turn around , and just go to the badroom, hop in the shower. Some time goes by , i am retracing my steps last night, trying to figure out if i indeed had "played" her. I dunno for howlong i was under there , but all of a sudden someone enters the badroom ( no lock , ah well happns all the time) . I yell be out in a sec , but b4 i know what is happening i with my back against the wall , HB9 naked body pressed against me kissing like there is no tomorow. I lost my resolve and thins escalated from there ... ascalated allot

after all calms down a bit , she says "see , i knew u wanted me too" she gets up walks out , and yells from my friends bedroom , cya tonight cutie. ( we had agreed to grab another drink )

That was 20 min ago , and even after another shower i still feel like a total shitbag.

WTH do i gotto do now , i gotta tell sam ofc , but how ? and worse still she is gonna be around all week. if she pulls anything again , i dont think i will be able to say No .

Damn u HB9 ,

a guilty , slightly pissed off at himself
Keruli

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Oh good Gods....

First off you need to be totally honest with Sam.
Tell him you didn't play her at ALL, but apparently both Sam and her saw something in what you were doing. Apologize for any signals they might have sent and tell him they were all accidental.
Then you need to tell him the whole story. Just what you told us, don't leave any details out, especially at the beginning, so he knows she started things.

Secondly you need to man up and accept responsibility for this.
You fucked up. Big time.
Even if you didn't think you were gaming her, both Sam and his girl saw something in you, so you did something. Then in the shower you REALLY did something. You need to swallow your pride and admit you fucked up. Badly. You need to accept that Sam is gonna be right pissed at you. And he has every right to be.

Thirdly you need to call off the drinking tonight.
Don't tell Sam's girl. Tell Sam.
After you've done the above steps and he's not sure what to think, tell him flat out you're not going out with them tonight. You're going out, but somewhere else. Tell him this is because you don't want his girl to find you and he needs to talk to his girl, big time. So you're going to make yourself scarce tonight, and if need be, for a few nights. Call a friend who has a bathroom that LOCKS and stay there for a few days if you need to.

And finally, you need to get your ass down to Home Depot and buy a damned deadbolt, chain, or doorknob lock for your bathroom. Buy it out of your pocket and buy it right after talking to Sam. Install it yourself TODAY an tell Sam you're going to do this.

This will show him a few things:
A) You're honest with your friends and you're willing to admit some fault, making the rest of your story clearly not bullshit.
B) You're sorry.
C) You're willing to change your plans, spend money and remodel the bathroom, just to make sure it never happens again.

Remember, bros before hoes, right?

Cinnamon

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Assumming this story is true, his girlfriend is a slut and they will eventually break up. And when they break up she will tell him you slept with her to get an extra jab in. So eventually, he will find out. Telling him is probably pointless if you are currently roommates. The second you move out i would say end the friendship.

Oh man you must just be really good even when your not trying! This would have been one of the best experiences. It's so wrong to do that to a mate however it goes to show that she is not a trustworthy person and will end up hurting your mate anyway. If you meet up with her again ask her why she would do this to her boyfriend. And ask yourself is it really worth losing a mate for a girl?

I don't like this idea. Probably because I'm not the kind of person who runs away from/avoid problems. I always try to confront my problems.

I would say to do as Cinnamon Spice said how to do it. Otherwise your gonna feel bad for it. I also believe that it sooner or later the truth would have come out anyway.

Hey all , thx for the advice.

I told him straight away, explained evrything that had happned. All hell broke loose ofcourse, ended with sam taking a couple of swings at me , and me promising that i would get out of his face for a few days but that if he wanted to talk , he just had to give me a ring.

Days went by, no word from sam. HB9 clearly had other idea's , after me ignoring a couple of calls she send me a text.

HB9: Hey, where are u staying ? i really need to talk to u ! x

Me : I really dont feel like talking to ya now.

HB9: Come on, I know u must feel lonely 2.

From here on i started ignoring , her and tough she tried calling me a couple of times, eventually she stopped.

Then 2 nights ago, Sam called and asked me to grab a drink with him. Over drinks he started telling me that he wanted me to come "home" , things just were not the same , with me gone.
me: So uhm , we cool ?
Sam: I dunno, but this avoiding each other shit doesnt work either. Life has been sad enough the past days ,i need some cheering up.

We kept talking, Sam told me he had broken up with HB9 (the same day it all happned) , appearently things were not so good between em B4 all this happned. He had taken her to us , to have fun, to get the sparkle back in their relationship. I felt like a real ass. (still do)

But i moved back home, there is still some tension , tough things are looking up.

i Think i wil take Sam clubbing, and wing him a bit. Dunno we will see where it goes.

Again thx for the help.
Keruli

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Good on you.

Things will be rough for a while but you've still got a home and in the end you've saved Sam from dragging on a poisonous relationship.

When you wing Sam though, make sure you don't shove him into anything, he may still need some time to recover from the crappy hand life dealt him there.

Cinnamon

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Me and a couple of my close friends discussed this kind of scenario a few times and came to the conclusion that if one of our girlfriends was the one who started stuff, then the other guy may just be obligated to see how far she would take it in order to discover if she's a cheater or not. The rule was that he couldn't hit on her or try to escalate, but if she pushed it, then he'd just go along and see just how far she'd go. Of course in reality I think if that ever happened we'd just let him know as soon as she started getting sexual at all so as not to hurt the guy, but honestly it's better that you were the one that discovered she's a cheater because you told him, whereas otherwise she could have slept around on him for ages without him knowing.

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