Hey,

I'm new to this forum. I've been interested in a girl for a couple of weeks now. Although I haven't made a move yet, two weeks ago, I was getting lots of signs of interest from her. When we walked, she walked particularly close to me. She touched me a lot on the arm. Made comments about wanting to go places with me. Called me constantly. And more.

Suddenly, in the last week or so, she has not been answering my phone calls. Sometimes she'll respond with a text saying that she'll call me back later, but never does. It's weird since she was so eager to talk to me two weeks ago. I haven't been calling all that much, but she doesn't return my calls period. When I do get a hold of her, she makes excuses to get off the phone pretty quickly. Am I pursuing someone not interested in me or is she playing hard to get?

ButterNut

Ouch... Ive been in this situation myself man. Its always the same story with those girls who call you again and again chasing after you. Once you drop your guard and start playing their game its game over. Ive experienced this same situation quite a few times before I learned my lesson. The most recent experience was at the start of the year when I met a 10. She was actually a very close friend of an ex girlfriend of mine (I actually discovered this girl on my ex's top friends on myspace! lol). Anyway I messaged this girl a few times over myspace negging her. I initially didnt have a real intention to meet her because I was worried my ex would find out. Anyway I have this girl the push pull method over myspace for a month or two and she wasnt used to having a straight guy acting interested in her. So This girl ended up asking me for my number then started calling and txting me all the time. id reply to maybe one in three txts and answer one in two phone calls. it drove her crazy! finally she asked me out and I played it cool on the date because I realised she enjoyed the chase and I worked it so by the end of the date when she got out my car I just gave her a hug good bye and as she was getting out the car I said "hey come back here, I had a good time tonight I think you deserve a kiss on the cheek" so she came back and as I went to kiss her cheek she started kissing me on the lips. Anyway I kept this push pull power play going on for about a month and she was putty in my hands. To the point where I even had her driving to my house (40 min drive) every time we went out to pick me up it was great! but after a month or so I actually started to develop feelings for the girl and I began answering every txt msg she sent me, every phone call she made and for the first time I started calling her quite reguarly. within a couple of weeks she wasnt calling me anymore, was hardly txting me, wasnt picking up my calls and I never saw her again. She won the game, she got me where she wanted and she got her ego back! Because I let my game slip!

The lesson of this story is their are certain women out there with low self esteem that needs to be nurrished. When you refuse to feed their ego it drives them crazy and if youve got one of these girls their putty in your hands. But unfortionatly these type of women are driven more so by their egos than by their emotions so once you start playing the game they want you to play they will soon tyre of you. If you have a girl like this, resist the urge to play their game and keep doing whats working.

My advice to you is to cool off for a little. Stop acting so eager because its obveously scaring her off. Act as if you dont care, but dont act as if your upset with her because that could make things awkward. wait a week or so and send her a txt that sounds casual. Make yourself sound happy in it as well. And then backtrack from there and try and get her chasing you again rather than vice versa.

HOpe this helps.

Freeze her out for a while. You're busy.

Have the same thing going on at the moment with a girl. One week of non stop texts and calls, met up a couple times and one night in paradise . Even broke it off with my casual for her. Bad move.

No more contact the next week.

For me there is an explanation.... She just broke up with her ex, can't get over him I expect. Also she moved to the city 60km from where I live.

I played her game, by being all AFC and saying that I would take her out the next time she was back in town. Then when she said she was back for a few days, I just froze her out. Ha ha

She can play my game.

Hahaha, nice!