Long read.


SemiCliffs:

-Dated girl for 4 months
- I was a pu$$y bitch.
- Showered her with everything, never got ANYTHING back.
- Sex only once (she felt obligated to give it).
- I broke up with her since I was unhappy.
- Month later, we decide to hang out last night.
- I've learned alot about attraction and stuff within the past month.

Story:
Last night she calls me and suggests we hang out. I said I'm cool with this, what do you want to do.

Her: Anything, i unno.

Me: Ok, do you want to go out or stay in.

Her: What you mean by going out.

Me: I mean, let's go out blast brittany spears music and have people give us nasty, mean looks, and if they do that, then we get out of the car and dance on their hood. What do you mean, what do I mean?

Her: Yeah, going out is ok.

Me: Well, there is a party that we're gonna go to.

Her: I don't want to go to a party.

Me: What do you want to do?

Her: Anything but the party.

Me: That's fine, get home from work, change, and call me when you are ready.

Her - (Calls and let's me know she's ready).

Me: Ok, that's fine but since you're a party pooper I want to stop and say hi to some friends for a bit, and I'll call you when I'm on my way. About 30 minutes.

Her: That's fine.

30 minutes passes...

Me: Hey, I'm on my way, I'll call you when I'm close so you can open the gate.

Her: Ok.

Ok, we'll I want to summarize this next part and then jump to the part I'm confused about:

So, basically we go out, I tease her, I ignore her, I definitely play the LEADER. Something she probably isn't used to. At first she was being her normal bitchy self, and then I finally got her laughing and actually talking about stuff. Then we go into to Wal Mart, we start looking at random stuff, and I'm leading and she walks away. I DO NOT follow, I keep on my track and I hang out looking at CDs. After 20 minutes she finally finds me and wants to leave. I ask her what her rush is. She wants to get home. So, I'm like, well that kind of sucks for you because I'm driving. So she gives me a bitchy look and I'm like, don't start pouting, I'll take you home your Highness.

So, we get back to her place. Her roomate and another guy are there. I start hitting on her roomate in front of my EX. Her roomate was flirting back, it was priceless. So, anyways had to cut it short cuz the guy that was there cockblocked me and was like I need to walk home, and I offered him a ride. So we left, no questions asked. EX walked me out I told her to have a good night, and since she didn't ask for a hug I didn't give it. (I usually ask, not this time BEYOTCH).

So after 30 minutes later I send her this text:

Me: Remember when we used to cuddle and I would rub my hands through your hair.

Her: Yeah, I miss that.

Me: Remember when I used to bite your lip so hard that it would bleed.

Her: oooo yeah, I miss that.

Me: Remember when we fucked in a forest and lit a fire afterwards..

Her: Wow, 30 minutes ago you were hating me and now this.

Me: I thought we had a good time. Everything was perfect.

Her: Yeah whatever, you were on your phone and you ditched me in Walmart.

Me: I want to come back and cup your perfectly rounded breasts in my hand and lick every inch of your porcelain skin.

Her: you can't come back my roomate and I are having an outing in the living room.

Me: That's fine. Have a good night.

Her: nothing....

So today, I go into her work for about 3 minutes (figured I was out buying xmas presents so why not):

Me: Hey, a really, really cute girl told me about this big discount you guys were having but I can't seem to find her anywhere.

Her: haha, whatever. I don't get off of work until 4pm.

Me: That's all good, I just wanted to stop by and say sup, I'm with a friend so I've got to make it quick.

Me: Hey, I've got a serious question to ask you. Give me your hands.

Her: I'm scared.

Me: Give me your hands.
(I start massaging them).

Me: Will you marry me?

Her: WHAT?!

Me: Yeah, let's go to Vegas and get married. Wait, I don't think your income can support my hectic lifestyle though. I mean, I want to be a stay at home dad. You know, the kind that has his wife bring him a beer while he's sitting back on the lazy-boy enjoying the Broncos (her fav team) getting their ass handed to them by the Cardinals.
[ALL the mean while I'm still massaging her hands].

Her: No, we're not even dating!

Me: All the more reason.

[By the way, I stole this skit out of a PUA book].

Me: No seriously though, what are you doing after work.

Her: I have to go spend it with my dad he's been begging me to spend some time before I go back home to see my mom.

Me: That's too bad.

Her: Why.

Me: I have a surprise for you, it's in this bag.

Her: What is it?

Me: Well, I guess you'll have to find out.

Me: Anyways, I've got to run Tracey is prob waiting.

I walk out.

[So, she ends up calling me and she is hanging out with her dad, which I just say have fun and tell him I said hi, and shit]. So that's that.




Guys, my problem is this: I love this girl to death, but I don't want to be the bitch in this relationship like I was before. Am I doing the right things? What do you people suggest? What can I do to have this girl practically screaming to come back to me?

Help me out!

zapped here

umm well i have been in these situations before not quite the same but you know how things go

it was good to start the leadership side of things and it was good of you to start acting less interested especially hitting on her roomate in front of your ex now theres kinda a few ways to avoid just getting a shut out night like you did cuz when you have oppertunities they are best to be taken, the over the phone sexual escalation is good but it only had a certain effect in your case only cuz you didnt really have the chance to follow up on it and by her resposes to what you said there is def attraction so now that theres attraction dont give in too early
like when you visited her at work sometimes to them it can seem almost needy and out of the way so you should try to avoid those gut decisions to go do things like that and with the sexual talk shes prob thinking about getting back together for the fact of satisfaction of those thoughts so what you need to do now is deliver try to set up another date but maybe plan things so at the end of the night your not so cock blocked and if she says shes busy dont hassle another day out of her at that moment just kinda say well we cant go out this day cuz im seeing this woman real or fake who gives a fuck to continue the hot and cold and making her jealous but once she hears that she will beg for a date and then you can make it and so on i would say your in a semi good position just really stick the the rules and do what you were doing before cuz clearly it worked

You need alot of woman....some of ur lines wer good but you didint use them in the right way.

Also when you said "We are going to a party" and she said she didint want to thats when you should have said "Alright well I have plans to meet up with some people at this party so call me later"....you cant tell somone what they are doing and then turn around and ask them what they want to do....Its like telling a dog to sit and the dog not sitting but you give it a treat any ways....you gave her all the power and had none.

Hey man I read that thing and have to give you props. Your coming up nice.

The only thing you have to work on is not investing so much energy (if thats really hard then fake it). Like don't to go to her work or try to set up dates day after day.

Just be more patient and let her call or txt you first every once in while.

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