I'm sure this concept exists within the community vernacular but just realizing it for myself is quite a discovery.
I was raised to be apologetic with my sexuality and mitigate everything I say and do. I was with this lady a few weeks ago and showed her some dancing styles on Youtube that were quite sensual but clean and such. Our interaction over the whole thing was just marveling at the sensual artfulness of the two dancers. I feel like this may have opened her to the idea of me as a potential because I displayed that I appreciate things like that. It got me a very gentle kiss close later so I think that it worked out to a great extent!

and you kissed her back, etc, I assume?

At some point along the way you'll have to take control of her and drive things where you want them... Its nothing to be apologetic about. Its what men do...Never be apologetic to a girl, yourself, or anyone because you find them attractive and want to fclose them... Its what we do.

doesn't sound like you are poking around this forum to "play" but want to find a long term g-friend. kudos to you if you feel it will make you happy.