I am 6ft 4 and have always found that I generally seem invisible to women. People say women are attracted to height, but I never get much attention. The only attention it does seem to attract is a negative one. Like when I am sitting opposite a woman on a train or a woman is somewhere near me and doesn't want to make eye contact, they generally seem to view me as a threat just because of my height.

I always avoid looking at women out of my own messed up shame. But they still treat me like I am a creep who stands out. I feel like I would not get this SPAM if I was shorter. It's almost like being tall qualifies me in their mind for some attention, but that is just a way of attracting their scorn for my ugly looking face. To them It's like I am a little creep on stilts or something.

I am not a big guy. I go to the gym, but am still under 200lb. I find the same thing happens with men. My height draws their attention to me, but just in a negative way where they want to challenge me and see how assertive I am. It's like an animal way of behaving, but I don't get it with regards to women.

man i dont think your height has anything to do with the kind of attention you are getting- just by reading your post it seems like you have a bigtime negative vibe goin on..."my ugly face" "creep" "shame" just turn that stuff around and wear a smile at all times and you will see an imediat difference.

If you were 6' not a thing would change, your height seems like an excuse for your 'social akwardness'

Allot of guys here can help out way more then i can, for now just smile more get a new haircut whatever. Most importantly just feel good about yourself.

Well, im a pretty desireable man. And at one point, I walked around looking serious all the time. Women never responded to me, never looked at me, pretended to ignore me. My body language was bad (lack of eye contact, smiling etc.)I looked too serious and had no expression on my face. So it's probably the expression on your face. After learned about body language, i started noticing women noticing me everywhere i went. Smile and start looking into their eyes, thats key to body language. If you look serious, you will creep every woman out.cause your insecurities will show..

height is big time win, you need to learn to use it when you do it is the ultimate peacocking things

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It makes you stand out in a very good way and there are certain attributes that women like about tall men. Esp. dominance. But it means little to nothing if you have no substance, or I guess game as we say here. (Personality, style, money, to a lesser extent looks) On the other hand if you go around intimidating people with your height in a negative way people are going to tell you to go fuck yourself. In other words, keep it positive, be sexy, use your height, look down into her eyes.

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I always thought being tall was an advantage because to me it makes more sense if the male is taller then the female

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it doesnt really matter, but it can help. lots of girls have the belief that tall guys are attractive. but if youre big and you use cocky funny then its possible to come off as intimidating.

OK, thanks guy. I should have left out some of the "ugly" comments etc in the post. I suppose I was just trying to make it seems interesting. I am aware from reading Pilinski that your expression can give go away signals to women. The times I have had the negative looks from women would be often on public transport where nobody smiles. Anyway, I'm already working on this. I am definitely awkward, but am already working trying to deal with my social awkwardness. I need to work on holding eye contact anyway so the smile is next. Only when I get comfortable with eye contact can I smile. By the way I'll be posting in the social anxiety section as well as others so that's me.

Your not using your height correctly. You need to get in people's faces and be more dominant with your height. Don't be afraid of getting within inches of people. Just make sure your in an upbeat mood and you come off as social able. That way people won't be as intimidated by you. Also keep in mind there will always be people intimidated by your height no matter what, so just accept it if you see a person intimidated.

Also take ownership and pride in your height. In other words be happy and confident in your height. This will make you more attractive to girls physically.
The taller you are the more noticeable your actions/behavior/emotions will be.
When it comes to guys and height the taller you are the more likely they will feel threaten by you, even if you are skinny. Its just the way it is.

Mystery wasn't short either

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Females are turned on by tall guys. Even in parts of the world where tall is normal (Lithuania comes to mind) being taller than the normal guy is a huge advantage. I am tall and skinny and all I ever hear around the world is how "nice and tall" I am. From little children to old ladies they all are impressed by my height.

Tall guys are also much nicer (on average) than short guys. Short guys seem to have a certain arrogant quality about them. I have known many tall guys like myself who actually are too soft and nice.

Height is something you can't change. Blame your ethnic and genetic background. We didn't get to choose how tall we were. My solution is to focus on spreading love. Seriously, spread the love. People (especially girls) pick up on that kind of thing. Not the creepy kind of love (hugs and touchy crap), but respect for all people. The kind of love where you don't worship anyone. The kind of love where all people are the same in your eyes. Try it. You will be happier and the "chicks" will dig it.

Mate I've been in the same boat as you. decent looking, 6 foot 3, ya know.. im thinking.. wheres my action? but what i didnt realise is my height more or less makes my mannerisms more obvious... if i was nervous id stand out more then say a 5 foot nervous guy... its just the way it is,. nowadays i own my height, im sure women are still intimidated by it, but i look down into there eyes.. i offer value, i smile and now the reaction through the day is really different. just walk, slowly, calmly, around a mall and engage women with eye contact and once you have it... smile. just a lil george clooney like grin that should communicate to that primal part of her that wants a big strong protector... i dont know whether that makes sense to you guys but it does to me bro!

Dude I am 6'6" and I am wondering where the action is as well. But I don't let it bother me. Recently I stop caring about it even.
Sounds like your learning how to use your height to your advantage.

Hi

I agree i dont think your height is the problem here, one only has to look at mystery to note that heights isnt a problem, i think your general attitude may be more the issue here, like some of the guys said before me... Sort your attitude out and have a more positive vibe that will def improve you overall, remember folk can tell a positive person from a negative person, work on your inner self before going any further thats my advice

Peace

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being tall for a men is like being a girl with big breast...you get a lot of attention from the opossite sex. Learn to use it at your advantage, and women will flock to you. NEVER EVER be ashamed of being tall/short. It is a part of you and you must be proud of yourself.