I was at a resturaunt, just stopping in to have a quick beer or two (and seeing if there was anything suitable to hit on) and checked out this girl who looked pretty cute, maybe an HB8. However, she was the hostest, and I had a crowd of 8 or 9 people pushing their way in, so I didn't get much of an opportunity to talk to her.

I'm sitting at the bar, having my few beers, and this other girl calls me. I figured it was time for a smoke anyway, so I went outside. I walked by the windows where the hostest was sweeping the floor and looked up at her. We exchanged smiles, and I continued to finish my cigarette and phone call.

I came back inside and marched right up to her, and said, "Do you think your boyfriend's going to get jealous about you checking me out through the window?"

She stopped what she was doing completely, leaned back and said, "If I had one."

We chit chatted for a second, and approached a lull in the conversation and she said, "Ask me a question." (Something I should've learned by now.)

With a playful tone and smirk, I asked, "Can I have your number?"

Her response was, "I'm not that easy."

Wait a fucking minute... That's MY line!

"I was just kidding. Well if you get bored, come say hi. I'm sitting over by the bar." I was a little surprised, and really at a loss of words at this point.

"Figures," she said with a smile. "I'm just messing with you!" (AGAIN, I'm the one supposed to be negging!) "Well if you want my number, you have to answer a few questions," she said, still smiling.

Totally stunned, I replied, "Sure."

She asked me if I had my own place, a car, a job, etc., but the point is, she had ME qualifying for HER.

The last question was, "What's my name?" (She had introduced herself earlier.) She covered her nametag. I remembered correctly, so I ended up with a number close.



I am totally stealing some of her material, and in all honesty, I was a little worried to post this because after what I just witnessed, she may just be a member here!

Lol, atleast you learned something Valuable here.
I wouldn't of complied to her questions as easy as you did lol

Also where is your question! haha.

Seems more like a Field Report

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"And yay God said to Abraham, taketh thy herb and with fire consume it, for it is the dankest of dank. Seriously Abe, you gotta try this shit. I'm baked off my ass right now" - Luke 4:20

Ah yeah my newbie question:

How could I have better handled this? I got knocked out of my frame pretty easily out of shock.

Yes, it ended well, and the outcome was the same, but the means of getting there wasn't expected or desired! I SHOULD BE THE ONE DRIVING!

you failed at asking her for the number never directly ask for a number! always say hay i have to go meet some friends now but you seem very interesting and ide like to continue this convo how should we go about this? make her say oh ye ai can give you my number or email or something? also from reading what you said you jumped like 10 forward then tripped into a garbage can. slow it down toss some more negs if needed but you were golden from the opener! just kinda got to caught up. shes a hostess you can always come back and say hey got a boyfriend yet? if she still says no reply with this "sorry to hear that, get a lil closer and say maybe its cus you have lint on your shoulder" brush it off! even if it isnt there who gives a fuck right? your neging and going keno! but be careful she might not like that. i also like this one to.

me: hey you got something on your face.
hb:really were is it!
me: point to your self and say right here.
hb:thanks! *trys to brush it off*
me: oh no!, - in a sarcastic tone! me:you can bring a horse to water but can you make it drink *sigh* and say hey let me get that for you. or just keep telling her she didnt get it off and just start laughing while shes rubbing the shit out of her face lol!

2 negs + keno in that one situation!

I wasn't trying to #close right then, and asked for her number right away because I expected her to say something like that. I just choked in that I didn't have something witty to come back with after she said, "I'm not that easy."

I was planning on going back to my seat and regrouping for a few, then seeing her again before I left.



Point well taken though. I need to get my basics down better before I try something like that again. I'm trying to run before I can crawl.

I've answered my own question. =/

(With your guys' help of course.)



However, I plan on getting back in the driver's seat with the first phone call.

if some 1 says im not that easy reply but how easy are you

That's generally just how women are, that doesn't sound at all unusual to me. The point of most pickup stuff is that YOU are the one flipping the scripts that the tend to use.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Okay, this girl's better at picking up than I am.

I called her, and it went to VM, but I didn't leave a message. She called me back, and I said that I was on my way out the door to meet friends for dinner, but that I just wanted to call her and wish her a Merry Christmas.

I asked how her day went, told her about when I went to get gas yesterday, I saw this dude wearing the cat's hat from The Cat in the Hat, and dropped it into a puddle of motor oil. We laughed a little, then I said that I had to go.

"You can't hang up on me first!" she said, then went into her own routine!



Obviously she's interested if she's going through the trouble, and I just keep getting shocked out of my frame! I'm just going to let this play out and see how it goes... taking notes, of course.

If I had more experience, I don't think I'd be getting knocked out of frame as much as I am, but I'm a newb, so I'll keep going out and doing my own thing, and see how this plays out.

Good idea? Bad idea? Opinions? Suggestions?

Sounds like things are good from what you've posted. Honestly guys keep talking about things in such a detached and uncaring manner, when you actually care about how things area going that's a good thing and you should cherish it. You WANT to be in that state where you are all confused and crazy about the girl. If you don't care, then she obviously isn't worth being interested in.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

it sounds to me like she is a indepenant person whom projects herself well. imo i would design a few neggs on this that would make her feel that her being inpowered is unattractive



good job btw

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Age: 23
Rank: RAFC

Why would you neg her? That's like punishing her for flirting with you!

I don't see why you guys think this kind of behaviour is bad! She is being just the kind of girl you should be looking for; she's playful, flirty and openly displaying interest in him; why on earth would you punish her and try to make her stop being such an awesome girl? What's next she'll ask him to have sex with her and you'll suggest that he should freeze her out?!

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Yes listen to rye lee. This chick sounds cool. If she is showing interest then you don't need to neg.
Instead, just try to control the frame. This should provide fun banter for both of you.n