alright guys ive met this girl. she lives in the burbs, i live in the city. we've been hanging for a little over a month now, its hard to get together because of where each of us live but whenever we hang its VERY flirtatious, make out at the end of the night but i have not had her spend the night yet so i have not sealed the deal. i am VERY attracted physically and emotionally to this chick although i am trying not to portray to her that i really like her. but she probably knows that i do. i really do think that i am slipping into her having control because she knows that i am into her. i really need to know how i can turn this around and have her chase me, i want her to be calling me multiple times a day! BUT i dont want to do something stupid or act like a dick and turn her off.

Also i know this chick likes me because she comes to the city and surprises me when i have certain events going on. but i'm still paranoid that she is seeing other dudes too or that she might not like me, or maybe she is leading me on. i really have no evidence on this but sometimes she will not call when she says she will. i really need some input dudes. i really want to make this girl my girlfriend and i dont want to screw it up.

also i don't know how much i should read into this but i was on the phone with my mother and this girl would say things like "tell her i said hi" etc and she was enthused about what my moms response was. do girls just say these things for fun or is she really into me? i really am going crazy here haha and its the holiday season so please help me remain sane!

thanks guys!!!!

My advice would be make it seem like your the prize. If you feel like you are giving her control? what are you doing that makes you think that and stop doing it. If you are calling her too much or txting her too much stop txting and calling her till she thinks about you and starts calling you... She is definitely interested in you if she comes out to suprise you and she lives far away. Dont make it seem like you are available all the time...make it seem like she is lucky to be spending some time with you because you are so damn busy all the time even if you are not... Also the situation with your mom could mean that she has a deeper connection with you, because my ex gf used to do that shit when we were together for awhile.

Hey Rahl333, nice one! Sounds like you got a girl you really like there.

She obviously likes you a lot, so put that idea the “she might not like you” out of your head! She travels a lot to see you, she is very flirtatious, and she makes out with you. So try to relax, chill out, it’s just one girl; (I know that’s easier said than done). The fact that it’s hard to get together because of where you live might actually work in your favour, I find that kind of situation keeps that pull stronger for longer.

In my opinion the only way you are going to really have control is to accept that (in the words of Tyler Durden) you are coming from a place of abundance and there are tons more hot girls that you could be with, so even though she is a pretty cool girl, it’s not a problem if for whatever reason it doesn’t work out.

I second what amogtilldeath was saying, be sparing with your texts and calls, you’re the prize, be busy. You should be going out, having a fun time, doing things, and just leading an interesting and fun life. That’s going to be much more attractive than a guy who is worrying about whether she will call or not, and whether she likes you or not.

Here is the frame: You’re a fucking cool, interesting, fun guy who lives in the city, and if she wants to come and hang with you that’s great, but if not, your still going to be having a good time regardless! And ultimately if she doesn’t want to come and hang out with you, then you can easily find someone else who will.

i appreciate the advice guys!!! i really do!!!! happy holidays!