one of the pua leaders told me to remember wen goin out sargin to have fun..
i think it something not said enuf...
i maybe a newbie myself but i always felt socially comfortable..
and wen out especially in clubs bars and other social gathering places if ur not comfortable it will show..
and if ur not comfortable and havin fun any routines you use will just end up sounding worked and forced..
if u are going out too stressed about ur routines and if u know this opener or that openr wel enuf or if can pull off this cold reading or not then it will all sound like rehearsed lines and the whole point of the things you've learned will become reduntant...
thanks for reading...
feel free to say 'hey chris your a doosh'..
or alternatively, and preferably, 'nice advice chris'.. ha
later dudios

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totally dude! It's the same for anything. You should try to enjoy everything you do. Obviously we won't all like everything, work etc...
But we should be constaintly asking ourselves "am I happy with everthing?"
And if you are not then you need to think about what you can do to improve things.

Sorry, enough of the self help bs

That's funny. There was a point when I as downright depressed, and I was wondering why my life was so miserable.

I eventually got the help I needed got out of it. I then wanted to be committed to myself. Meaning, find out who I truly was and become what I've always wanted to be.

Its sad that people have to be depressed but when I see depressed, or shy people today. #1 Depressed people will tend to avoid positivity, or worse all contact, so it becomes difficult to include them. Even if they are really social. Shy people, I think people just overlook.

I'm going a little overboard with Buddha here but this statement is so true to me:

Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. -Buddha

Why be angry, sad, or distressed. Life is too short for that.

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All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him. -- Buddha (the playa)

As of recently I say to myself whenever I go out
"My objective tonight is to have a great time and to help people around me have a great time!"

So far it has worked wonders. A few weeks ago I went out with the objective of kiss closing. A very likely event for the night. But man did that objective build stress. For the evening I was uptight and it ended without a kiss close.

Now I study at home. I prepare myself for situations. I work on my inner game. All goes to improving my emotion of being able to handle whatever comes my way.

When it is time to go out I clear my head of all micro objectives, of all uncomfortable objectives, and I just say to myself I'm going out to have fun.

That puts me in a great emotional state to help me open up sets and have fun in the process

u put that very welll prize...
thats what should do..
know the routines and material well
but when ya goin out don't be thinking about it...

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