The other night i had a few friends over to chill and have a few drinks. I end up running a thumb wrestling routine with this cute blonde that is in my calc class. I get separation from the rest of the group by initiating an argument "that i have the most comfortable bed on the planet and its impossible to be near it without sleeping." We move to my room sitting one my bed.(after a few more games of thumb wrestling and probably a little too much confidence building)I finally end up kiss closing. We kiss while laying on my bed, when one of her friends comes to the door and says "remember you have a boyfriend" and laughs. I was like "you have a boyfriend?" she said "yeah, just don't tell anyone what we are doing" and winked at me then jumped on top of me and continued where we left off.

We've been texting and hanging out every few days since then. I am interested, but I'm not sure if she is just playing games with me. I found out her boyfriend actually lives like 7 hours away and they only see each other every few months. Should i just drop it? or try to get her to break up with him? or just keep trying to hook up? I'm pretty confused right now, so any help would be greatly appreciated.

Just take it slow man. Don't ever try to get her to break up with him (desperate). One difference between guys and girls is that girls will break up with their partner when ever someone better comes along. Just get this girl to like you and convince her that your the better guy. Don't even talk about her boyfriend. Don't display too much interest though. All I can say is that I would spend time with her because distance really is a key factor when it comes to attraction. Don't make yourself to available and and just play it cool.

thanks for the advice...anyone else want to throw some advice my way

Yeah, she's serious about you not telling anyone. She doesn't want to come off looking like a slut. Keep pushing, but keep it on the DL.

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Shes going to eventually go back to him, or ditch you using the boyfriend excuse. It's her ace in the hole. Know this from the get go, and have fun

i wouldnt say defintitly but always be ready for that. that aside girls need attention and this guy isnt give it so he also may be on his way out soon.

i base it off how long their dateing 6 month or more i will wish her luck with him. less then that doesnt come off as much of a serous relationship to me.

(I dont incorage fighting cause ive been arrested for it before.) ive actually been in a few fights over problems like this. i dont start shit but if he finds out about you he will most likly say something out of line and sould get cracked cause you are not his "boy" and it was his girl contributing to the moves.

Haha i hope he tries to start shit. Im not the fighting type, but i will make him look retarded for trying to fight me. Ill just tell him that he can hit me all he wants, but he should know that by best friend from births dad was Johnny Cochrans partner attorney for about 10 years. He'd be happy to take away everything the guy and his family owns, then put him in jail for it.


Or just make a point to have a convo with his girl about how fighting is just debate for people who have the intelligence of a caveman, and that it is only for people who are not intellectually capable of solving a problem. Having this convo without even mentioning him. Then if the situation arrives he is automatically DLV himself.


Back to the point. I decided today to try a little push-pull. We have been talking every other day or so for the past 3 weeks and hanging out quite often.

I told her today that i think we shouldn't hang out for a while because I don't want to get in between her and her boyfriend.

HB9 "Well cheating on a boyfriend isnt a good thing haha, but i really like hanging out with you "

I haven't answered yet because i wanted to get some advice, but i figured i would leave her hanging to build some tension because i noticed she was wanting me to respond with "I LIKE HANGING OUT WITH YOU TOO BLAH BLAH BLAH"

any advice would be greatly appreciated

what if its been liek 9-10 months but theyve each ended it several times, and recently he has dumped her, probly (but not definitely) for good?

Best advice I can give you is not to let her keep you from seeing other women while you're seeing her.

bump

dude i dont know. thats just my rule you can tell if a girl is serous about their boyfriend if they mention him in convo that had nothing to do with them. example of a experience: im bullshitting with this new girl at my job and she brings her boyfriend up several times and i wasnt even trying to pick her up. it is like a defence. if their playing defence with the boyfriend thing more then once. they usually are serous in my book.

Listen bro, just play it cool. If you enjoy each other's company and are having fun, then there is no reason to stop what you are doing, BUT do not take it too seriously. She has a boyfriend, and no matter how serious they are, she will use it as defense if she feels you are pushing things too far or too fast... she'll let you know either verbally or by body language if she is feeling uncomfortable. Keep in mind that she can and possibly will go running back to her boyfriend in a heartbeat if certain situations are right and he's around. I think everyone pretty much summed it up by saying definitely keep your options open and don't take it too seriously. Stay friends and party on, she'll let you know somehow if she is uncomfortable with your "progress".

thanks for the help everyone