hiya,

i just read an article by david d saying that the best way to tell a girl you like her is to do it by getting physical with her and let her figure it out. I agree with that, but there's this girl who I like. I know she's definitely attracted to me but here's the fucked up thing: she lives 3 hours away in a different university. I know this is somewhat stupid but out of all the girls I know, this girl has an incredible personality and stands out.
If she were in the same area, I would have escalated things physically but how do i tell her since she's so far away?

hey bro Im kinda in thesame boat....but honest to me the 3 hours away is to far for us to have any thing. How do you two know each other? how long have you known each other, and what has she said to make you think she likes you?

Don't. It's not a good idea, trust me. It just leads to awkwardness.

Take David D's advice.

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It depends....realy I mean if its just a crush? then no I would leave it alone because it will prob pass even If right now it feels like you need to tell her....we all get crushes from time to time....but thats why I asked what ur history is with this girl? and how u know she likes u?

well, im close friends with her older brother. (although he doesn't know that we've been like txting/calling each other regularly though) I mean initially i had no interest in her but then i started busting her balls and she played back. I amped up cocky/funny after this and accused her of being a lesbian and she drunkenly responded "I wouldn't sleep with her, besides i like you"
I didn't reply and she called the next day saying she didn't really mean it whatever. Anyway i just let it shrug and continue with C&F and she uses words like "dearest" saying my name is really cute. She even jokingly called me an arrogant twat when i told her we'd fight all the time and i'll always win.
Then today, on msn she said i miss you. Besides she's asked me to be her partner for a charity trip next easter.

The problem is I sometimes feel she says all these in a very casual way, not in a i-like-you-so-lets-be-a-couple kinda way. Am I right? Also, the fact that i know her brother pretty well makes it even more awkward. Practically speaking, i should just drop the whole idea, but of all the girls i know, she has a great personality, is adventerous, and loves live in general.

wow your friends with her brother too lol If its just a crush I wouldent say any thing to her because even though you might feel strongly about her now it will pass with time, and you dont want to reck your friendship with her brother, and you dont want to reck your friendship with her. In my situation the girl who I like lives 3 hours away and its not just a crush....I realy do like her and I have told her....but I also told her I dont want to have a long distance relationship because it is to much stress, and because we are only 21. For us its not wierd at all but I cant speak for you because it seems like the whole brother thing might make it wierd?