I've gotten to know a girl in one of my classes a little bit. She's pretty cool and I'd like to hang out with her. However, the semester is basically over so that's not going to happen. We only have two weeks between Thanksgiving Break and finals and I was pretty busy during this period, so I couldn't really ask her out (where or when would I be able to do anything?). However, if girls can read guys as well as some of you say, then I'm going to have to assume she has a hunch I "like" her.

I feel I've been receiving mixed signals. We have the class twice a week (different setting depending on day of the week). One of the days, I don't have a chance to really talk to her much (if we do talk, I'm usually starting the convo this day). As for the other day, we have no trouble talking, there's a good amount of quality time there (and she starts the convo just as much as I do). While her kino has subsided a little, her body language has improved.

I knew today was the last day I'd see her before break (now it's finals time, we don't have a test in our class), so as we were leaving, I said to her, "Hey, we're always together in class, let's hang out outside of the classroom next semester." She smiled and we parted ways. WHAT IS THIS? If I heard a, "yeah, sounds great!," then I'd be happy lol. We exchanged numbers a few weeks back and have texted/called a couple times, what's the best way to keep in touch with her over break?

Guys . . . take a course in creative writing. This is just something I see over and over again on this forum.

"Hey, let's hang out!"

"You want to go out?",

"Maybe we'll do something?"


Guys . . . what is this? With one simple phrase, you just demonstrated that you're a boring, uncreative person + you probably don't care much about her because you haven't given any thought to do anything special with her + she probably gets offers to "hang out" 10 times a day + "hanging out" is what some John tells his hooker while he's got his head stuck out of his window on that street corner.

How much more effort would it take to say instead, "Oh my God. I just went to this ______ (specific name) club the other day and it was crazy. people were on the bar and the _____ band was off the hook. Let's check it out next week . . ."

This is NIGHT and DAY difference. I can walk into a club or bar or whatever and offer 10 girls to "hang out" with me. Then I can go to another 10 and offer a specific FUN EVENT. I'm telling you, the difference is HUGE.

What's the best way to keep in touch?

I wouldn't.

You haven't even begun your game with her. A couple of smiles and chit chat isn't even a start. Now you text her with anything during the break when you should be having a blast back home and you'll begin to sound like some lonely little kid. On the other hand, had you kissed her or F'd her, then you need to "upkeep" a bit.

Go home. Have a blast! Make her THINK about you. Make yourself a mystery for now and come back and game her properly. And you come back with, "Damn, the vacation was a blast . . . "

Also, you make it seem as if the "mixed signals" is some sort of mystery. Look, you can make her jump up and down like a monkey with your verbal commands. You can make her take off her shirt. You can make her bend over and touch her feet. You have the power. She isn't this autonomous unit that just does whatever the hell she feels like doing. (Action - reaction) You've already witnessed this by offering to "hang out" with her. Offer a specific "fun event" and see what happens. You have the power. . .

Kasabi's advice is golden here, instead of "asking" the girl to come and "hang" with you, give intentions, have a fun thing for you guys to do. This is also golden when number closing, make sure you stack forward after number closing with a fun intention. The intention in question would depend on your style/peronality, you could say you're going ice skating or if you were as direct as some people I know you would say something a little more intent than that "Well let's get to my place and do the Dance of Love."

Point is: don't be so vague that you sound boring as hell. Make sure she has something to look forward to.

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Thanks for the tips, it's good stuff.

Just to make it clear though, when I do ask her out, I will have the time and place in mind (I always do). I won't see her for a month, so I can't exactly do that RIGHT NOW.

I''ll hold off on any contact, save maybe a "Merry Christmas, hope all is well" on Christmas, but other than that I'll contact her once I'm back at school.