I ask because I'm totally new at this and my biggest sticking point is a consistent, alpha Frame.
It's easier to lapse into nicey nicey fluff territory than it is THINK about what I'm doing. So, after my wobbly newbie attempts at Attraction, and getting into Comfort, I tend to drop Frame and... well... be myself.
The thing is, it works. Comfort is created. I just don't know if it's working on a friend level or an 'It's ON!' level.
I don't even know if these are the same things.
After all, once you got Attraction, unless you mess it up big time, you move into a friendly dialogue kinda thing anyway, getting to know them.
Is there any difference between Rapport building and friendship building? (except for including or omitting the Attraction phase, of course, which is explained time and again as the cause of LJBF.)
Ok, I guess I got to give you a short field report to explain...
RAVEN'S FIRST DAY 2
Or
How Do You Game A Girl On Day Two When Her Ugly Sister Is With You?
Met these two sisters, one a sweet-and-hippy 8, one doesn't even register. I wasn't Gaming then, but got their numbers anyway.
Had a few drinks in a pub with both tonight. After attempting Attraction, with my ballbusting and rickety DHVs and wobbly Push Pull, I realised my Game had slipped and I was fluffing. But fluffing well and still running routines (stories, reciting poetry, building similarities between us.) Tried subtle kino with HB8 but it just felt wrong with her sister there.
The biggest thing was I had lost my Frame-y edge. And it would have felt incongruous to start the Push Pull etc. over again (never Game backwards.)
I was getting a few IOIs from each (lingering looks, giggling, both DHVing to me and the wonderful "we're both single" - DDB combo) but I have to admit that, whilst I was definitely the alpha of the conversation, it felt more friendly.
But then, on the flip side, no girl is going to start getting seriously seductive with her sister there...
Got a big hug from each at the end, along with a lingering over-the-shoulder-as-she-walks-away look from Ms Hippy HB8.
This is too long... will sum up my questions and STOP TYPING!
1) What techniques do you use to keep Game at the front of your mind?
2) Comfort stage / Friendship building. Same, different?
3) Comfort stage - less/no 'Strong, Alpha Guy' frame?
4) Have had around 3 cumulative hours (but that's with BOTH of them there) and am definitely in Comfort stage. What can I do now to amp up the Attraction?
5) How do you Game an HB with her sister present?
6) What do I do if, as my spidey-sense suspects, they both fancy me? Obviously perfect for jealousy-based Game, but they are sisters and live together and that would just get messy.
If you made it this far, cheers
