| yeah dude, Mystery's newbie mission is more directed at your average guy with slight AA (like me)
i took it to a new level though...
i went out alone on a thursday, friday and saturday night, approached every set i could, stayed for around 5 mins and then moved on to a new set.
i opened 40 sets on the thursday, 20 sets on the friday and saturday.
my approaches just got better with each set. each set was getting easier and easier as my AA started disappearing.
so now my openers are sorted and i can consistently reach the social hook point... and it only took 3 days (and i got 7 #-closes in the process)
EDIT:
i have a friend who also had crippling AA, so much so that he'd come out with me, i'd open a set and pull him in, talk him up (he placed 3rd in Muay Thai nationals a while ago) and girls would ask him questions and he just wouldnt reply because he was too scared to talk.
so this is the drill that i gave him... it worked really well but took around 5-6 weeks because he was very hesitant and pessimistic. i had to eventually do the equivalent of mystery's $200 approach trick with him to just get him to say hi (i highly recommend this btw)
at first, on campus, in malls and shops, at train stations, on the street etc just say hi to everyone you make eye contact with or walk past. dont bother looking for a reaction or convo because only like 10% will bother greeting you back. after a few times you'll see it just getting easier and easier. (i saw got this idea from a video i saw on youtube where a guy suggests this)
after a few days of that, when you're comfortable saying HI to random strangers, it's time to try going up and talking a bit. but again, baby steps. so here's what you do:
you see a HB5, go up and say hi, ask her how she's doing etc. just general chit chat. when it runs dry, excuse yourself and move on.
after you're comfy with the 5's, move up to 6es, then 7s and 8s... you get the idea. after a while you'll notice that the convo just flows naturally... you dont have that nervous energy pulsing through you anymore, you'll be as calm and relaxed as you would've been if you had been talking to a friend.
remember, there's nothing forcing you to stay in a convo, so if it runs dry, excuse yourself and move on.
the point of the above is not to run game but rather to become comfortable talking to women. it all comes with practice.
once you're comfortable striking up conversations with 8s and 9s then i'd say you're good to start trying game, but until then - just general chit chat.
i know it sounds like a lengthy procedure, and it is, but getting over fears takes commitment and time. if you put in the effort then you will reap the benefits 10 fold.
if you really take this seriously then you can most probably overcome the worst of your AA in 2-3 weeks...
Last edited by vitaminc on Wed Nov 05, 2008 9:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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