Ok, sorry this is kinda lengthy but I need some input guys so this is the problem. There is a girl I'm interested in pursuing. We have gone out on a date about a month ago and didn't lead anywhere so I let it kind of die down for a few weeks, but then I saw here again and decided I wanted to hang out with her. So we made plans to carve a pumpkin and watch a movie. Well last night I went and got her and we had fun picking out the pumpkin and what not, but they didn't have the movie we wanted to see. So we decided to scratch the movie and head back to my apartment.

At the apartment we had fun and did some harmless flirting. My roommates were there and they started playing beer pong. I know this girl doesnt drink that much but I asked her to be my partner and I would drink for her. She turns and looks at me and tells me "I can't, I gotta go in a little bit."

So yea I was disappointed. She had told me one of her biggest pet peeves is when people flake on plans. So in the most kidding way possibly I started giving her a hard time about her ditching me. I threw in the fact that she should have planned to be with me for the night cuz we were gonna watch a movie anyways, and she said "But you don't have that movie, so I made some other plans."

I continued to joke around with her a bit more, than she said "Well if you want we can watch the movie tomorrow?" So we talked about it and decided we were going to go see Saw tonight. Then the pumpkin was taking a long time so she was like I gotta go now, you can finish it tonight if you want or we can do it tomorrow? So I agreed to wait til after the movie to do it.

Basically, how do you handle this. A girl that flakes on you midway through plans, but follows up by making plans with you the next night? Part of me wants to flake on her tonight and last minute tell her I'm busy, but I enjoy this girls company and my Friday night is pretty dull as of right now. What should I do and how should I perceive her actions.

-Patience

dude u sound like u said it urself when u joined the group setting of beer pong when u know she doesn't drink so possibly this made her turned off plus she was probably thinkin it's going to be a chill night of just u and her with the movie and dude if they didn't have the movie u shouldv'e been ready with option two i mean thats strictly my opinion but hey....

or maybe some bad joking happened, actually come to think of it that might have been it, u were making it seem like u were needy with ur joke instead u should have negged and disqualified yourself to her with : o well i guess ur missing out , and i thought u were adventurous I guess this is y we can't be bf and gf mann u should have just acted like u didn't care then proceed to make ur plans the following day

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I understand what you are saying about the beer pong thing, the only thing that bugs me is that she had arranged to leave BEFORE I even mentioned beer pong. I asked her spur of the moment if she wanted to be my partner and I'd drink for her and her response back was that she had already made plans to go out. Then 5 minutes later she had called her friend and asked if she was ready to go yet. I probably should have included this. Yea maybe I shot myself in the foot but the way she came off was that she had already made these plans and planned on leaving regardless.

okay so when u say u and her decided to go back to ur apartment what was the intentions of going back there for??

a neg usually works in any situation if she has bad behavior like u said she did by calling her friend when u already had plans then u should have negged her on her rudeness trust me when u neg enuff it becomes natural to be quick to neg

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like you said before she doesnt like flaking out on plans. so if she flakes out on the plans she made already with her other friend wouldnt that be the same? even if it isnt with you.Now did she already make the other plans before you made your plans with her? the best thing you should of done is what sync said the disquilifer. pretend you done care and tell her she'll be missing out. its not she totally blowing you off(not yet anyways ) she even ask to make it up to you by Suggesting hanging out the next night. Just be cool about it and work at her the next time you hang out. Use what happend as a tool to get to her more.

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Me and her had made these plans on Sunday, so its not like she didn't know what to expect. I tried to disqualify her but, i guess i did it the wrong way and came across needy. Now tonight, how do i play it. should i go through with seeing this movie with her or should i play the game back and "make other plans" ?

just go head and go watch the movie and then

go n practice disqualifying urself from her in the mirror until it sounds right make her feel like she is really missing out remember u r the prize ...if u don't kno wat to do think about what a girl wood do in this situation.... distance urself maybe a little be mysterious yo... I'm tellin u if u really want to get this to work well just make it sound good act like u don't need her u can do it just think of what a girl wood do...and if she keeps on flaking just call her out on it and leave her alone.....

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