Hey guys I have just signed up for this forum but I have been learning about PUA material for the last several months now. And I think that is part of the problem, I know a lot of the theory when it comes to game but I basically have not had the balls to apply it yet. Since my summer has started I have been trying really hard to begin approaching. And I really feel like a failure right now because the best I can do so far is say "Hello" to some people. I got to malls, plazas, just on the street, but I can't seem to get the courage to open any girl. Can you guys please give some suggestions as to how I can get rid of some of my approach anxiety? I feel like this skill is extremely important to learn to have an overall good quality of life and I'm missing out. Please Help!!!

Moglitron, you are correct about getting rid of approach anxiety being important. If you don't get rid of it you could be the most knowledgable person in the world but have 0 success because you are you own worst enemy. Often times working through approach anxiety directly (doing approaches) is not the most effective way to do things because when your nervous system is in overdrive your body language will fuck up without you realizing it and you will forget your concious efforts to control it. The only way you're going to feel fully satisfied is to eliminate approach anxiety once and for all.

I have a very strong knowledge of hypnosis, NLP and psychology and have utilized techniques which have never been used in the seduction commuinty before to help people go back and re-visit past issues and relase them. Mystery's theories about approach anxiety are a load of shit; I don't have it and neither do many of the people I have worked with.

Everytime you talk to an attractive woman or think about approaching one, your brain accesses the emotions associated with your past memories of failiure with women. When you see an attractive woman, your brain is accessing feelings from a time in your life when you failed and making you feel that emotion in the present even if it is no longer practical or useful to you. It is one of the brain's man protection mechanisms which it uses; your brain believes it is protecting you because your unconcious mind involuntarily assumes failiure and makes you feel those emotions in the present to try to prevent you from getting hurt.

You can go back and find the beliefs in your mind from your past that set your confidence issues and once you bring them up from your unconcious mind and become conciously aware of them you can remove them and imput new beliefs that you can and do deserve to be confident and successful.

Read about how to fix this here: http://www.infinityinst.com/articles/parts_therapy.html

- Chris

What I do to get over approach anxiety is lie to myself by giving me a better (false) motivation. My favorite example and the easiest way I can put it is:

"If I was given a $1,000 to approach this person and begin a conversation, would I do it?" -yes
"Than why can't I just do it without the $1,000?"

It's all in your head. Rejection seems minimal if you fool yourself into thinking 'win or lose' you'll receive a prize anyways. In the end, you'll still be alive, still be the same person, no physical pain (should) will come from an approach. Try it, see if it helps. Sorry if my reply wasn't much help.

PS: I use the same technique when I have to approach a 250 pound, 6'3", mean looking criminal... having to tell them they are under arrest and that I'm going to have to take their freedom away. A 110 pound blonde doesn't seem that intimidating anymore after a while. At least she can't knock you out.

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