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I want to meet new people and actually feel that I still have my game on. I'm 23 year college student at Columbia and it sucks being a hermit and not having the guts to go to a girl and strike a conversation.
Step 1.= Get the F out of the dorm room. Today is
beautiful, go outside. Do something in Riverside Park. Just get out, start making small talk with guys, girls, rickety old men, fragile old ladies, go pet a few dogs. Do it, just go f-ing do it.
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What's my goal? =) Get my game on again and to know that I still got it. right now confidence is shot so.. its really tough especially after being broken up by an ex in a ltr of 5 years.
I understand and respect that your confidence is shot. That will take some time to repair. I found that getting out there and opening sets, regardless of the outcome, was my biggest confidence builder. You, beyond purging your mind of your ex, is to stop using your breakup as a crutch to as why you are holding yourself back. It's not a reason, it's an excuse. Buck up, you can do this, I promise you.
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How do I keep a phone convo goin anyway... I've been talking to a friend who I have an interest on and she pops me with like 3 word answers and she seems so shy. I'm not sure how to break the ice. also I'm acting a little weird when i talk to her.
Run the conversation. Talk about things that interest you. If you are really into quantum physics, try to make her think that quantum physics is the best thing since Diet Peach Snapple. If you are truly interested in what you're talking about, you will speak with authority, excitement, and passion. Women love passion, it shows that you are not totally wrapped up in yourself, you can be involved in something bigger then yourself.
Get on it.