Push-pull method is essentially using mixed messages to create sexual tension.
Mixed messages are the foundation of sexual tension which is the foundation of attraction. This is what separates a friend and a lover. No matter how conditioned a woman is by society this is one of the few things her animalistic instincts will override.
Mixed messages are about sending a message (consciously or subconsciously) without making your intentions or feelings totally apparent.
Here’s an example: Pretend that you are an average AFC bragging about all your ex-girlfriends, how gorgeous they were and how much they all were craving your body every night. You think she would be impressed? Obviously not because you despite all your logical efforts to show her what you have to offer you come off as a needy and insecure man who feels the need to prove himself to others.
Now, imagine a man who subtly tells a DHV story and drops these hints to her unconscious; bypassing the logical mind and thereby giving her no chance to reject these stories (the unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between true and false – the conscious mind acts as the filter).
A woman relies on what she can sense which can change constantly. This is why women will jump from thing to thing and change their emotional states and choices like clockwork. This is also why they tend to make snap instincts. They don’t logically think over their feelings like men do.
Unlike us, women think primarily in terms on minute details and finding a deeper level of meaning in everything. This is why a man will sort of be looking around when he is in a social situation as if he is taking in all sorts of details around him whereas when you get a woman’s attention she will be focused without words on you even when you are not speaking – she will be pondering what you’re thinking and she will be unconsciously assessing all the details of an interaction.
Women don’t give second chances on their emotions very often. Once a woman reaches a conclusion in her mind things are set in stone. That is why women can believe they have found “the one”. They use their instincts to place women into different categories - friends and lovers.
Have you ever had a woman who sent you a mixed signal? It’s a trademark trick woman use with men and from their point of view it is more and instinctive part of their personality.
It’s one of those incredibly common things that women do to man. The problem is that to the untrained mind the signals are impossible to interpret. You’ve probably seen it – a woman will be fun, bubbly and happy one minute and then the cold, direct and distant the next.
Although this is often an unconscious process dictated by a woman’s emotions, sometimes woman will consciously send mixed signals to test a man. You have to remember that an attractive woman knows she can get away with a lot more than an average one.
She will try everything under the sun to mess with your head. This includes mixed signals – she’s attractive and she’s used to getting away with them and having guys attempting to cater to her.
The mixed signals are one of those really awkward situations which guys frequently have to face. This is a part of attraction that will make or break an entire relationship. It is the part of the relationship or you must convey self confidence and unwavering alpha behavior.
When a woman starts sending mixed signals the best thing to do is exactly what you feel is right; don’t make an intentional effort to go cold but at the same time bill make an intentional effort to force things to work.
Find a way to put a smile back on her face or try to do something unexpected to spark further attraction. If she keeps up the cold behavior (which is rare) at this point it would be best just to walk out. The situation is likely more trouble than it’s worth. The worst thing you can do is start forcing conversation or acting beta.
I’ve walked down on dates before and had women come back and tell me that they were sorry for their behavior and wanted to make plans to see me again. This occur because I didn’t allow my alpha status to waver and I display that I was not going to play games with her.
A cold woman will not always call you back or respect you for walking away but you have in much better chance by maintaining your pride and standing your ground than you ever will by trying to force things.
- Chris
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