Hey everyone, first post here, been reading and studying up on stuff, and I'm finding everything amazingly interesting. I can't seem to get enough of it. It has opened my eyes to how people think and react to social status and all of these things associated with the game.

Well I've been outta the game for a few years actually. Just kinda made a decision to really concentrate on studies and stuff with school, and then got to the point where I couldn't be a social as I wanted. It went from being just a temporary decision to being just how I went along everyday. Well I started hanging out with some new guys, they are still slightly AFC, but do a hell of alot better than I do in terms of women and socializing. I'm pretty social, but it takes me a long time to warm up to people and really open up. I'm a pretty funny and comedic guy, but displaying those traits to new people is something I have to work on.

So there's a girl on campus that I've seen a few times but don't know, I've seen her looking at me a few times, but other than that, I hadn't met her. She's about an HB8 or 9.Well I had to go to Home Depot today to get some stuff, and as I was walking in, I saw here working there at one of the registers to my suprise. As soon as I saw her, my heart started pounding...I think mainly cause I knew she would be the first chick I'd be approaching since I've started reading up on all this PUA stuff. I figured that I already had a leg in since I've seen her on campus. From the begginning of all of this, I've decided that I'd like to try to stay away from canned material that seems to be popular, like the common "opinion" openers, I think overall I can benefit from it as it will cause me to be a little more creative.

I'll admit the conversation could have gone better...but quick thinking and all of that is something I've gotta get used to again.
So I walk up with my crap, and she starts ringing it up.
Me: Hey, havn't I seen you around campus?
Her: At [college name]? Yea I've seen you there.
Me: Cool, I thought I had seen you before.

At this point I was thinking about negging her on the orange apron they have to wear, but it just seemed too awkward coming outta nowhere. So I pay for it with a credit card, and she asked for my ID...I kinda sighed when she asked, not sure why so,

Her: What, you don't like people asking for your ID or something?
Not expecting the question at all I simply replied: Naw, its cool.

So she hands me the receipt and I stopped talking, as I'm signing it, she reinnitiates the conversation, IOI possibly?

Her: You graduated from [highschool] right? Class of 07?
This suprised me, as I never saw her there, but I guess she saw me...made me wonder if she knows stuff about me already or not?

As I'm signing it I just said: Mmhmm

handed it to her, then read the name on her apron, and said [name]? cause I wasn't sure how to say it, and she just looked at me like I got her attention. At this time, the guy behind me in line is shovin his crap up, so I felt that I didnt have time to do much else...so I just told her I'd see her later and left.

Anyways, thinking I can get another shot with chick, and hopefully #close. I see her around campus, and was wondering what you guys thought I should do? Normally I'm with my buddy on campus since we have the same classes. Should I introduce him? I just don't want to do it in a way that DLV. Or just wait until I have to go to Home Depot again and talk to her there?

All suggestions are appreciated. I know I have lots of things to work on. This was just one situation I was wanting to get some advice on.

Tonight I'll be going to a party, so hopefully I'll be able to practice some game there as well.

Thanks guys!

Hey guy!

Nice you're getting back to the game, so you gotta get in shape again!

Ok , I read your story. And I guess You did exactly as every common guy would do. A PUA needs to be different. You don't wanna do exactly as all your friends, you wanna do in a way girls have never seen before, got it?

So as you might know, your conversation could be better. You could have a better opener, and could use the "I've seen you on campus" that she said, to work more on it and make jokes. But that's ok. It's all past, and you gotta get over it and improve your skills to a next time.

Here's the thing... You said you see her at the campus? Good. But don't introduce your friend ( YOU don't even know her, and doesn't know you well too... Why do u wanna introduce a stranger to another stranger? ). Instead you could say to your friend: "Wait up, I'll catch you later" , then go talk ALONE to the girl ( no matter if she's not alone... only by come alone means you're brave enough to approach alone ... )

Then you could get near the girl and use some openers: ( you could look at openers here, but I guess you always see her at campus, so you better use a non-threat opener ):

"This campus is just so small.... I'd rather go to a bigger one ... haha how are you?" ( this is a great way to neg her at first... Like "I don't wanna see you here.. haha )

Then you can start a conversation using some C&F stuff , because as you said, she knows a bit of you, so she'll probably asks things about your life. ( and you might ask about her... )

At the end of conversation, just say you gotta go, and use this BB line I made up, girls always laugh and remember:

"Alright, let me do something in life, 'cause death is certain!"

So in the conversation you must pick name, their activities, and a way to see her again around the campus ( like where does she eat? )

And try to practice a routine. I'm sure it'll work out!

Good luck!

Thanks for the advice dude...it all makes sense here when i read it, but when trying to perform it, the quick thinkin and anxiety seems to cause me to think like all other guys...as soon as i left i was immediately critiqing myself and trying to point out mistakes...i just need to get out and perform... Appreciate the advice, i'll definitely read over it a few times and commit it to memory

That's ok.
We all have been through this one day. That's why we read methods, write good lines, openers... We always improving and practicing a routine, sometimes a routine work, sometimes it don't, and so it's all dynamic... You gotta study a lot.
Try to work in front of a mirror. That's awful in the beggining, because you can see your expressions.. and that's the point. This way you can train your body language. Also, you can train to have better eye contact ( you don't wanna talk to a girl and look to a tree, you need to focus... )
With time you'll feel more confortable, and it's just gonna be automatic.

There was a time I was doing physiotherapy. Without even notice, 2 days after starting, the recepcionist was with me in bed... That's why we use to say pua it's not just a change, it's about building a LIFE.

Read more things here, it might help:

misconceptions-and-confidence-building-vf2.html

And Good Luck![/url]

Alright thanks, So I've got a new question. Tonight I'm gonna be having a little house party, just a few people over to drink, play pool and hang out.

So should I go back to that store, tell her she'd have a good time and that she should stop by?
Or just pass this one up?

Sorry for didn't see that question dude...

IN my opinion you don't wanna get her involved in your social life ( YOu said it was a small party, just people you know would be there ), before you pick up her.

So I guess was not a big deal call her to go to your house. Only if she ask for something, then it would be different, but that's ok.

As I said, you don't wanna give her the look she's your only option. You've needed to show, you're a nice guy and have lots of options.

So how are things going?

_________________
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." - Carl Jung

thanks bro...well i didnt invite her to my party, didnt even see her....ended up #closing this girl that was over who was friends with someone i know. To be honest, it was my first #close in years...although i think i may have shown too must interest as she didnt do much to the conversation when i txt her...she would answer my questions but that was about it, then i said "so when are we gonna hang out when we're not getting drunk?" and got no response from it. Time to stop txting her? As for the other girl at home depot, i saw her at school yesterday as she was walking by, i waths in between 2 buddies and she waved, so i said hey and waved back and kept walking, as i wasnt sure there was anything else i thought i could do. Haha right after that my buddy shoved me and said "dude, wtf, she was easily an 8, why dont you have her number yet? So now im really wanting to work on getting it