OK, the way i define friendship is two people that benefit from being around each other. For example the guy that gets u into parties, or the girl that listens and give constructive feedback. I;ve realized that i have few friends, and the ones that i have arent very good. Just today one invited me to a party, but when i called to ask how to get there she told me shed call me back when she found out, an hour later, no call. So i called them back, and they said that there were too many ppl there and the host didnt want anymore...

I switched schools this year. And the girl mentioned above came from the same school to the new school with me. So ive been relieing on her friendship and she's gotten me into 2 parties, the only two ive ever been to that werent birthday parties. And recently weve been drifting apart.
During the course of the schoolyear i made friends with a guy at work that went to my school and through him i met a g/f that would later break my heart b/c im a huge afc and beta male. but in the middle of me dating her i got on her AIM with her and talked to the guy as her and found out he didnt like me either. And now the school year's almost over and i have no new friends, except for one good aquiantance.

So i was wondering what i could offer someone in return for loyal friendship. I dont know anyone to get ppl into parties, im a big smart-ass most of the time, and Im usually classified as the quiet kid. Any ideas?

Jordan

My english isn't topnotch but I saw on the urbandictionary an example of a smartass:

CrazyChick: Hello room.
You: Why the fuck are you talking to a room.. There are perfectly good people here.
CrazayChick: Fuck you man Damn smartass.

That's not a bad attitude, lol.
I never had really trouble with making friends, so let me see if I can help you.

First of all, get rid of that girl asap. I don't wanna give you a heart time, but it looks like she doesn't give shit about your feelings. So I think it's better to go out and make new friends instead of going with her. By being nice to her even if she just uses you your showing that you don't have any other options. I realize you're in a tough position. It's easier to get 5 new friends if you already have some than 1 if you have none.

But to make new friends, you have to out (i don't mean clubs or something). Try to go on a sport or something. It's easier to get friends there.

Oh btw, I don't think friendship is about give and receive something. Maybe in later stages, but the first months it's about HAVING A GOOD TIME.

I hope this post is useful to you. If you're still having questions, shoot!

Good post Ghulias. I agree, try joining a club you think you will like and that will be a good place to make friends. You will get along better with people who have the same interests as you do. Good luck

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