hi everyone

i have got a girlfriend and she is very i dont know..
i think she is arrogant.

lately its getting summer and i started to let her hear less from me and do fun things, i promised i wouldnt cheat on her.

a normal girlfriend would be like texting you if your ok, if your not cheating on her and stuff. she would check you you know?

but she doesnt
its like she couldnt care less about me.

well i started to turn the volume up, letting her know even less from me and she was like; do you still think about me sometimes?
i told her nothing was wrong i totally like her more than anything and honestly i do! but i wanted to make her feel like what i was going through when she doesnt text or call

a day later i kept my silence back on
2 days later she was like, how are you, i think about you

i replied i had a great time going out last night

i didnt hear from her

then she was like telling me in an email things about her life obviously she wanted me to do the same so she knew what i was doing and stuff

i only replied on her stuff, not talking about myself and said everything was fine

im sure she read the email a few hours later, a few days later again i got a nice email back
i think she is gonna cheat on me now. cuz i heard friends of mine saw her at the beach with another guy.

also she is tanning and stuff and making sure she looks the hottest for this summer

how do i recover

im acting like a liar i think, cuz 1 day i say i totally dig her and the next day i wont let her hear anything from me
and afterwards it turns out i had a great time partying.
but at those parties i totally talk only about my gf, even to other girls.
this sucks you know, i know being honest is the key but i think i lost my credibility
also she couldnt care less about me, so it seems at least. its like: "if i dont really love her, she will find someone else"
and dudes.. that sux cuz i really do love her. im just not sure if she really loves me you know

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

It sounds like one-itis - you need to cut your losses and find another girl (there is some three billion on this earth). You need to be direct with her and stop lying If she couldn't care less about you she is not worth your time.

Girls don't respect liars in general and if you are unhappy enough to come asking for advice there is someone better out there for you. You need to be direct with a woman, show an alpha presence and be willing to put her in her place when she deserves it - call her out on her shit.

Girls are governed by their emotions - we are governed by our logic. If a girl doesn't feel interested in you a particular day she isn't going to logically think, "well we had fun yesterday and I want to be nice and give him another chance to have fun." If she doesn't feel like seeing or calling you she isn't going to do it.

The push-pulls are good though - when you stop giving her attention you prompt her to take action. However you should never directly express your love for a woman - you are giving her control by doing this because now she knows she has pull over you and can string you along. Ideally you should let her know you have your own life and she is just a part of it; that's an AFC mindset and you need to understand the core mechanics of her attraction mechanism to understand what attracts her to you.

If you promised her you weren't going to cheat on her you already failed a shit test and gave her power yet again. Why do you love her? I don't mean to sound like an ass but there is no girl or guy who isn't replacable. When you said "i think she is gonna cheat on me now. cuz i heard friends of mine saw her at the beach with another guy." followed by "at those parties i totally talk only about my gf, even to other girls." that is a major AFC mindset and you are absolutley right, you lost her credibility; I've been there many times in my life as well.

- Chris